The circular graph below shows the average interpersonal style of INFPs. The vertical, up-down axis shows their style in terms of dominance, with a highly assertive style at the top (Assured-Dominant) and a highly passive style at the bottom (Unassured-Submissive).
INFPs ranked as having low dominance according to the CPI™ tool. These individuals are very independent in nature, and value autonomy and personal freedom. They dislike imposing their will on others and believe that everyone has a right to their own individual ethics and beliefs.
Submissives are concerned with facts rather than emotion, and won't spend time getting to know you on a personal level. In conversation, submissives are serious, direct, and formal and often like to be dealt with at arm's length.
There is nothing in the description of an INFP that prevents them from being a Dom.
INFPs' Dominant Function: Introverted Feeling. INFPs are deeply aware of and in touch with their inner landscape. Their dominant Fi is inwardly focused and adept at evaluating and handling their personal tastes, values, and emotions.
INFPs are a lot like ISFJs and INFJs when it comes to feeling comfortable before flirting. They like to cyber stalk their love interests, but can be somewhat shy with them in person until communication has opened up a bit. You'll find that INFPs make this open communication flow happen rather quickly.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFP's natural partner is the ENFJ, or the ESFJ. INFP's dominant function of Introverted Feeling is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Extraverted Feeling.
As partners, they are most likely hand-holders and snugglers, using physical closeness as a love language. About 83% of them agree that understanding their partner's physical needs is essential for a healthy relationship. They will likely make a very conscientious effort to make sure that those needs are met.
Decisiveness is a turn-on for INFPs. Making decisions isn't an INFP's strength. Sometimes it's because they usually spend a lot of time analyzing different options and exploring all the possibilities in order to come up with a conclusion that would make sense for everyone involved.
INFPs are just not interested in casual chitchat. As Intuitive Feelers, they're fascinated by human nature and wish to understand you at a deep, emotional level. So, if an INFP really likes you, they'll go out of their way to talk to you and engage in a meaningful conversation.
Previous findings suggest that women are more likely than men to take on the submissive role during sexual activities (e.g., waiting for their partner to initiate and orchestrate sexual activities), often to the detriment of their sexual satisfaction.
ISFJ would probably be the most common submissive type, especially considering that it is the most common type in general. In my experience, INFJ is probably the 2nd most common. Then ESFJ, and lastly, ENFJ. These traits are especially pronounced depending on the way the person grew up.
So, which personality types are best in bed? ESFPs and ESTPs are typically seen as the most passionate and pleasurable partners. They both appreciate the physical connection and can read subtle cues that help them please their partner.
ENFPs and INFPs tend to have really close, trusting bonds. Because these types share the same cognitive functions, they tend to innately “get” each other without as much trouble as many other type pairings.
The most compatible personality types for INFPs are considered the INFJ, ESFJ, and ENFJ personality types. The joint function is the extroverted feeling (Fe) that allows INFPs to explore the more adventurous side of their personalities mutually.
INFPs often crave intimacy on a deep and meaningful level, from all of the people they draw closest to in life. While they might not always find it easy to open up to others, once the INFP does reach this point then they definitely have a deep desire to be sincerely intimate with someone they love.
INFP: People-pleasing
The biggest turn-off for INFPs is people-pleasing. INFPs are independent and individualistic in their beliefs and values. They want people to be authentic and true to themselves, even if they risk offending others.
The INFP is intuitive and perceptive – it's not hard for them to see right through your B.S., so be genuine and authentic – they will appreciate the effort! Some Pointers: Be willing to share your heart, beliefs, and values with them. Show interest in their thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
The INFP. Your rich imagination and mysterious, complex nature are deeply attractive. We wish that you could invite us into the world inside your mind so we could explore its beauty and ingenuity. You see meaning in everything around you and you challenge us to be our authentic selves.
INFPs are often open-minded and creative when it comes to sex. They enjoy trying new things with their partners but they might not feel comfortable with intimate situations straight away. It may take them time to feel relaxed.
People with INFP preferences aren't known for dating around. Instead, they tend to choose a partner based on mutual trust and shared values. Because they're always looking to the future, they often see the potential for long-term partnership in their relationships.
INFPs get embarrassed when they are put on the spot and are expected to react emotionally to something. This could involve something like being given a really exorbitant gift or having a surprise party thrown for them.
Who are INFPs most compatible with? INFPs are most compatible with the other Intuitive-Feeling types—ENFJ, ENFP, and INFJ—as well as ESFJs.
Because NFP types (i.e., ENFP, INFP) are typically more agreeable, they are probably less open to infidelity. However, they may be just as interested as NTPs in open relationships—which don't require deceiving one's partner—and may be the most open of all types to polyamory.
ESFP. ESFPs are one of the flirtiest personality types. They are bold, spontaneous, and fun, which is the ultimate recipe for flirting.