Children under the age of three do not understand "no" in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of "no" doesn't occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.)
Sunshine Cowan: According to KidsHealth, a research-based site courtesy of The Nemours Foundation, babies understand “no” between eight and 12 months of age . When we say no to a baby this age, chances are they will stop what they are doing to look at us.
Babies begin to understand what “no” means between 6 and 18 months and may even begin to tell themselves “no-no.” While you might be quick to yell “no” if they're pulling on your necklace or opening drawers, constantly telling them “no” can make them think that everything is off limits.
Children under the age of three do not understand "no" in the way most parents think they do. (And, a full understanding of "no" doesn't occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process.)
When he says, "NO!" he is asserting his own healthy individuality. You do not need to make him stop saying "NO!" to everything--after all, it doesn't really matter what he says; the point is that he is feeling disrupted and annoyed and your goal is for him to feel less disrupted and annoyed.
It's important to keep in mind that some toddlers are simply, by nature, more likely to be oppositional than others. Children whose emotional reactions are big and intense, as well as children who are more cautious and timid, may be more oppositional than children who are temperamentally more easygoing and flexible.
18 to 23 months
Understands and answers simple “yes-no” questions (such as, “Are you hungry?”)
Months Is not gazing at objects; does not tune out repetitive sounds; does not move eyes to follow sound Does not respond to loud sounds Does not coo or make sounds When lying on back: keeps hands fisted and lacks arm movements; is not bringing hands to mouth; lacks symmetrical arm movements; does not turn head to ...
Remember, a one-year-old is still learning cause and effect, so punishing them is futile. Rather be their guide and support them to learn good behavior with positive and effective discipline. It is a must that one should not be harsh with the child. Physical disciplining is a strict no-no.
Language development starts to take off during this time, especially as children near their second birthday. Kids this age are better able to understand what is said to them and express what they want through words and gestures.
Your custody schedule should give your toddler frequent contact with both parents and provide both parents opportunities to feed, bathe, play with, read to, arrange playdates for, and put the toddler to sleep. Toddlers can be away from either parent for 2 or 3 days.
Toddlers are unlikely to understand the substance of the yell, and will only absorb the frustration, or fury, Gershoff explained. Yelling at this age group isn't likely to get them to do something quicker, or stop doing something foolish. Also, pay attention to how a child responds to yelling.
Time-out usually lasts between 2 and 5 minutes for toddlers and preschoolers. A good rule is to give 1 minute of time-out for every year of the child's age. This means that a 2-year-old would sit in time-out for 2 minutes, and a 3-year-old would have a 3-minute time-out.
Instead, help your child reflect and learn from their mistakes in a warm, encouraging, and sensitive way. Toddler defiance peaks at age 3 and for most children, as they mature defiance decreases — this is a normal part of development.
Set Limits
Calmly and firmly set the limit and explain why you are doing it. For example, “I know you don't want to go to bed, but it's your bedtime. Since you will not walk, Mommy/Daddy has to carry you. You are a big boy/girl and in order to grow, you have to get your sleep.”
The key difference is that with ADHD, your child usually has trouble paying attention and they're hyperactive. With ODD, your child is defiant, cranky, and angry. ADHD symptoms tend to show up when your child is 12 or younger. For some, it can start as early as 3 years old.
According to Dr Markham, saying no to your child helps with setting boundaries and limits, which aid in their development — emotionally, physically and mentally. Never saying it, Dr Markham says, can leave children ill-equipped to deal with the real world.
Just like the rest of us, toddlers don't always listen. But unlike us, there's often good reasons for this. Being absorbed in their playtime, not understanding complex instructions, and not getting the attention they need from you, can all impact on how much your toddler listens.
The very earliest baby can recognize or understand the meaning of “no” is at nine months. And even after that, it can take a lot of reminding. Here's how to handle baby when he's doing something he shouldn't.