Do borderlines flirt?

An impulsive borderline is often highly charismatic, energetic and engaging. They can be superficial, flirtatious and elusive, seeking thrills and becoming quickly bored.

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How do you know if a borderline person likes you?

If you suspect you're someone with BPD's favorite person, they may exhibit the following signs toward you:
  1. Consistent need for reassurance.
  2. Intense declarations of their love or appreciation for you.
  3. Reaching out more frequently when you don't respond.
  4. Fear that you will leave them or no longer love them.

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What do borderlines attract?

Those who have BPD tend to be very intense, dramatic, and exciting. This means they tend to attract others who are depressed and/or suffering low self-esteem. People who take their power from being a victim, or seek excitement in others because their own life is not where they want it to be.

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Do borderlines fantasize?

Romantic fantasization is a common feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD).

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Do borderlines get jealous easily?

In close relationships, a person with BPD may appear jealous, possessive, or hyper-reactive.

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Do people with BPD get obsessed easily?

People with BPD may not have a consistent self-image or sense of self. This may worsen obsessive tendencies, since they may find it difficult to see themselves as real or worthy individually, separate from their relationships.

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Are borderlines clingy?

A fear of abandonment is central to BPD. That can present obvious problems in a relationship, especially when you're just getting to know someone and have no idea where things are heading. Unfortunately, intense fear can lead to your partner being clingy or making unreasonable demands on your time.

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Are borderlines hypersexual?

People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) occasionally exhibit strong impulsivity, seduction, and excessive sexuality. For both men and women with BPD, sexual promiscuity, sexual obsessions, and hypersexuality or sexual addiction are common symptoms.

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Are borderlines submissive?

Some BPD signs that are specific to the discouraged borderline include: Loyalty, even to an excessive degree. Pliant and easily swayed by others, even when it goes against one's own desires. Submissive and passive even when desiring a leading role.

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Do people with BPD like being touched?

Physical touch can be interpreted as a sign of intimacy and closeness. For someone with BPD, who struggles with a fear of abandonment, touch might stir up feelings of vulnerability and fear, leading to avoiding physical contact.

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Why do borderlines need a favorite person?

A favorite person frequently is expected (consciously or otherwise) to help resolve unmet needs for the person with BPD.” People with BPD feel firmly attached to their favorite person and may depend on them for comfort, reassurance, and guidance.

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Do people with BPD stalk their favorite person?

A person with borderline personality disorder tends to anxiously avoid being separated from or abandoned by people they care about. They might go to extreme lengths such as stalking people they care about through tracking their phone or following them.

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How do you make a borderline feel loved?

Here are some pointers that might help, especially when you are in the middle of a heated conflict.
  1. As Much As Possible, Be Attentive. ...
  2. Validate Their Feelings Even When You Disagree. ...
  3. See Their Inner Child. ...
  4. Loving Someone with BPD with Kind But Firm Boundaries. ...
  5. Loving Someone with BPD while Honouring Yourself.

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Do people with BPD like compliments?

Therapists should be aware that complimenting or giving positive feedback might be frightening and/ or difficult to accept for patients with BPD. Therefore, it could be helpful if the therapist prefaces compliments to the patient by pointing out that this might trigger aversive emotions.

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What happens when a borderline falls in love?

A BPD relationship cycle often consists of some emotional highs and lows that may leave you confused and frustrated. You might also see your partner experience unexpected bouts of anger, anxiety, or depression. They may love you and then suddenly reject you or get upset.

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Is dating someone with BPD worth it?

Dating someone with BPD doesn't have to feel draining. If you are feeling like that, you are not alone and it isn't a sign that you don't love your partner. It takes time to learn how to communicate and be with people who are struggling but it's possible to have a healthy and happy relationship.

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Why are borderlines good in bed?

Another theory as to reckless sex and borderline personality disorder is that the BPD sufferer actually gets an emotional high from bonding with the sexual partner even if only for a short time. They are literally trying to fill in emptiness inside themselves and they try and try to fill that void with sex.

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Are BPD more likely to cheat?

Some people believe BPD is associated with infidelity. Research has yet to show a direct connection between BPD and an increased likelihood of cheating.

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Are people with BPD obsessed with their partners?

Those with BPD can get too reliant on and obsessed with their FP to get out of the relationship but the emotions they experience, simultaneously, are too intense to stay secure and healthy in the relationship. Therefore, they often feel like having no control over the relationship.

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What are the inappropriate behaviors of borderline personality disorder?

These swings usually only last a few hours and rarely more than a few days. Impulsive and dangerous behavior: Episodes of reckless driving, fighting, gambling, substance use, binge eating and/or unsafe sexual activity are common among people with BPD.

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Are borderlines love addicts?

Typically individuals with BPD have difficulty trusting others. Irritability and inappropriate anger with temper tantrums may occur. The symptoms of BPD may resemble love addiction. While love addiction is not medically diagnosable, addictive behavior is difficult to live with.

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Do BPD people overshare?

People with BPD often engage in self-sabotaging behavior. This can include: Oversharing.

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What is a BPD favorite person romantic?

Another hallmark of borderline personality disorder is having a favorite person—usually a family member, romantic partner, or someone in a supportive role, such as a teacher or coach. For someone with this type of BPD relationship, a “favorite person” is someone they rely on for comfort, happiness, and validation.

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Do borderlines like being alone?

Borderline personality disorder directly affects how one feels about him or herself, one's behaviors as well as how an individual can relate to others. Psychoanalytic theorists assert that individuals with BPD are often intolerant of being alone, which may be caused by experiencing “annihilation anxiety…

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