In a manner entirely characteristic of Buddhist psychology, the presence of a grudge is seen to be a problem for its subject rather than of its object.
The Buddhists have a mind-hack that deals with resentment in a very effective and almost immediate way, which is called Metta. Also known as 'loving-kindness'. Metta is the practice of loving all beings unconditionally.
Traditionally in Buddhism, forgiveness is done through the practice of repeating phrases of forgiveness toward oneself, toward those who have harmed us, and toward those whom we have harmed. Forgiving ourselves can often be the most difficult.
The Dhammasangāni [5] regard five acts – matricide, parricide, slaying an Arhat, slaying a Buddha, and causing division among priesthood to be five unpardonable sins.
First, Admit You Are Angry
You can't very well deal with something that you won't admit is there. Buddhism teaches mindfulness. Being mindful of ourselves is part of that. When an unpleasant emotion or thought arises, do not suppress it, run away from it, or deny it.
If we examine the teachings of Buddhism, we find further support for the view that taking revenge for wrongdoings isn't morally justified. Two central ideas in Buddhism are karma and the four noble truths. Karma is a cosmic law of cause and effect.
In the Buddhist teachings, we call strong emotions like anger, attachment, jealousy, and arrogance “poisons.” They poison not just our own happiness but also our connections with loved ones, friends, coworkers, and our local community.
Ānantarya Karma (Sanskrit) or Ānantarika Kamma (Pāli) are the most serious offences in Buddhism that, at death, through the overwhelming karmic strength of any single one of them, bring immediate disaster. Both Buddhists and non-Buddhists must avoid them at all costs.
Skilful actions that lead to good karmic outcomes are based upon motives of generosity; compassion, kindness and sympathy, and clear mindfulness or wisdom. The opposite motives of greed, aversion (hatred) and delusion, when acted upon, lead to bad karmic results.
The three poisons are: greed (raga, also translated as lust), hatred (dvesha, or anger), and delusion (moha, or ignorance).
There is no guilt in Buddhism. Thinking that our lives are defined by an event in our past is tragic.
The People Who Hurt Us Are Vehicles for Our Growth.
The Buddha taught that because of karma, beings are bound to the ever-turning wheel of rebirth. Only when a person stops believing in the existence of a permanent and real self can he or she become free from karma.
Buddha Quotes on Anger
"Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten."
There is no one cause of resentment, but most cases involve an underlying sense of being mistreated or wronged by another person. Experiencing frustration and disappointment is a normal part of life. When the feelings become too overwhelming, they can contribute to resentment.
The Master answers: Accept life as it is joyfully, and your bad karma will be eliminated in no time. As the Buddhist scripture states, “If you want to know your future, look into your present actions”, When the cause ceases, the effect ceases to be. Thus, if you do not sow bad seeds, you will not get negative outcomes.
Prostrations by reciting the Thirty-five Buddha's names: 50,000 times. This is to purify the karma of the actions you mentioned. Recite the Vajrasattva mantra 400,000 times. This is to purify the karma of the actions you mentioned.
The Vajrasatva mantra has been used for centuries in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition to purify negative karma. We can think of the negative actions we have commited, and with a sense of regret, use the mantra and visualisation to purify ourselves.
Not killing any living being.
The five principal kleshas, which are sometimes called poisons, are attachment, aversion, ignorance, pride, and jealousy. The processes that not only describe what we perceive, but also determine our responses.
There are five sins of this kind: killing one's mother, killing one's father, killing an arhat (saint), injuring the body of a buddha, and causing a division in the Buddhist community.
Don't point: Pointing at things or people around the temple is considered extremely rude. To indicate something, use your right hand with the palm facing upwards. When sitting, never point your feet at a person or image of Buddha.
Description: For Buddhists, well-being/non-well-being are states of being along a continuum. Though dis-ease suggests an absence of ease, Buddhists see it less as illness than as a consequence of ignorance, attachment to ego-self, and delusion, or, failing to see reality as it is.
One of the key concepts in Buddhist philosophy is non-attachment which involves letting go of our attachment to material possessions, relationships, and even our own thoughts and emotions. Another important concept is the middle way, which involves finding balance and avoiding extremes.