Turns out that's what most guys do. And so do most women. Researchers found that, "Both sexes used a lower-pitched voice and showed a higher level of physiological arousal when speaking to the more attractive, opposite-sex target.
It's not about what your date is saying, but the pitch of their voice. If they lower their pitch, it could be a subtle, subconscious sign they find you attractive, the study, in The Royal Society Proceedings B journal, suggests. Experts say it is probably an evolutionary tool to attract a mate.
People who feel vulnerable or emotional tend to be more susceptible to changing the pitch of their voice.” Most people are completely unaware of the pitch change, only noticing when someone else points it out but even then it's hard to consciously change it.
Listening to the recordings, the researchers noted a striking pattern: both men and women spoke with a slightly lower pitch if they were attracted to their date. Another finding: women only lowered their voice when speaking to a man they fancied, who'd also received favourable attention from other women in the room.
A person will change the way they speak to more closely mimic the other person. "Changes in the pitch of our voice or in the rate of our speech, so how fast we're speaking, are happening according to how we feel about the conversation but without our conscious control," she said.
Because men find higher-pitched women's voices more attractive, the voice pitch with which women speak to men may depend on the strength of their attraction to those men.
When people become frightened or excited, the muscles around the voice box (or larynx) unconsciously contract, putting strain on the vocal cords, making the pitch higher. More research has shown that females with higher pitched voices are deemed attractive, whereas men with lower pitched voices sound attractive.
When a guy who spoke either language was talking to a woman he found attractive, he naturally varied his tone from deeper to higher pitches, in a subtle sing-song way. Plus, their minimal pitch was lower when speaking with someone they were interested in.
As a result, women find men with lower-pitched voices more attractive. It's the opposite for men, who are more attracted to women with higher-pitched voices, which is perceived as a marker for femininity. Attractiveness in the voice is important for the impressions we give our potential partners.
"When a woman naturally lowers her voice, it may be perceived as her attempt to sound more seductive or attractive, and therefore serves as a signal of her romantic interest," she adds. Their research also measured people's awareness of the changes in others' voices.
Higher voice pitch in women indicates the presence of feminizing hormones, and it also correlates with being younger. Both qualities tend to correlate with high fertility, so men have evolved to be attracted to these cues.
Results show that when men listened to the voice of a woman at her most fertile, they rated her as more attractive, experienced an increase in heart rate and also experienced increased galvanic skin responses (GSR).
If a guy keeps accidentally touching you, wants to spend all his time with you, and looks for reasons to talk to you, these are signs a guy fantasizes about you. Also, when a guy says he appreciates you, it's one of the signs he finds you beautiful from the inside.
1. Women are more attracted to men with deep voices – and this attraction is strongest among prettier, more feminine women. In fact, women prefer a masculine voice more strongly and more unanimously to a masculine face.
His voice changes
People's voices unconsciously change when they are talking to a person they are attracted to. Both men and women use lower-pitched voices when they talk to a person they liked. Just make sure you find out what their normal pitch is before you assume anything, but it's one of the signs a guy likes you.
He seems drawn to you in the room.
In general, he just seems to be energetically drawn to you in the room—as if his focus, body language, and general energy all just seem to be kind of focused on you. Even when he's off talking to someone else, there still seems to be the vibe that he's paying attention to you.
If the attraction is mutual between you and another person, you'll likely want to talk to each other rather frequently. You may also compliment each other frequently. You might also find yourselves trying to make each other laugh and taking any chance possible to strike up a conversation with the other person.
The authors of the study, which was published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, concluded that this unconscious changing of tone "represents desire for affiliation and intimacy" and is a "way to communicate affection and relational connection." So don't feel awkward by your deep flirting voice.
However, often a high pitched voice is due to the vocal cords being stretched too tightly by the failure to develop a thickening of the voice box with puberty. If one pictures a string instrument, we raise the pitch by tightening the string and lower it by loosening the string.
The first sign a man is in love begins with the softening of his rough edges. Even the toughest, most alpha of males will show love by softening his voice and relax his demeanor around the woman he loves. Romance authors embrace this concept, romantics celebrate it and romantic comedies tease their audiences with it.
So it tickled me to discover my voice was referenced in a recent dating study from the University of Sussex which found that men find a lower tone more attractive.