Ignore to get more The more you (appear to) ignore your dog the more attention she will offer. Yes, keep her in sight out the corner of your eye. But don't beg for her attention. Teach her to choose you by being fun, unpredictable, rewarding.
This is well-intended but incomplete advice – if you only ignore the behavior, your dog will probably never learn to stop barking, jumping, or pulling. Just ignoring unwanted dog behaviors misses an important piece of teaching your dog what TO do instead. Dogs learn by association.
There's a common myth that when a dog tries to interact with you as you get home, you should ignore him. This is often applied to dogs that suffer from separation anxiety, but the effects of ignoring your dog can be devastating.
The difficulty comes with the fact that we as humans do not ignore, and dogs understand and respond to it far better than we can. You won't hurt your dog's feeling if you ignore it :) I'm talking about selective ignoring of unwanted behaviours.
If your dog is not getting enough interaction while you are home or is left alone for long periods of time, she might display certain behaviors caused by social isolation. The lonely dog might bark, whine, chew or tear up the home in your absence.
Attention-seeking dog behaviour is common – and is a totally normal survival mechanism in puppies who rely totally on the care of their mother but as adult dogs, excessive jumping, pawing or barking is difficult to live with and can become annoying.
Leaving Your Dog Alone Is Not The Answer
A common myth surrounding separation anxiety is that by somehow ignoring your dog, or by forcing them to be alone for long periods of time, they simply will get used to it, and the disruptive behavior will stop. This couldn't be further from the truth.
For example, if a dog doesn't like you, they may find some of your behaviors annoying, especially if you constantly do things that a lot of dogs are known to hate, like getting in their face, hugging them, teasing them, or yelling at them. Think about it; those things probably wouldn't make many humans like you either.
Talk to them BEFORE they exhibit needy behaviour
“Otherwise you might inadvertently ignore them when they're being 'good' then give them lots of attention when they're doing things you find annoying. By doing this you'll just make matters worse.”
Research indicates that dogs have a limited range of emotions, similar to what toddlers experience. Canines lack complex feelings such as contempt, guilt, pride, and shame, says Stanley Coren, PhD, psychologist and author of How Dogs Think. Like children, dogs see the world in a simpler way.
And it turns out, according to one expert, that your pup knows just how much you care about her. Dr. Brian Hare, who has written books about canine cognition, told People that dogs have emotions and feelings just like we do.
When you first arrive home, ignore your dog completely. This means you do not look at them, do not speak to them, do not pet them. For some pups, even telling them “no,” pushing them off, or asking for a Sit right away is rewarding for them, because they are still getting attention from you!
On average, you can expect to spend at a minimum, 1 - 2 hours each day on providing dedicated attention for your dog. This can be in the form of a walk, play, enrichment activities, training or general cuddle time. Dogs are pack animals so most of them love attention and company.
Just like humans, dogs are social creatures that don't like being alone. Giving them company all the time could spell trouble, since they might learn to be too dependent on you. At its worst, a dog that is too used to the constant company of its paw-rent could develop a case of separation anxiety.
But according to science, not acknowledging your dog might do more harm than help. A study published in the Journal of Veterinary Behavior in 2018 says that gently petting your pup before departing for work can help ease their anxiety, proving that human contact can help decrease a dog's level of stress.
Reed says, “When a dog respects you, they will respect your space, listen and respond when you ask them to do something.” This also means they aren't constantly pestering you for attention. Respectful behaviors include: Coming when called (and not jumping up on you) Relaxing when you are otherwise occupied.
Dogs choose their favorite people based on positive interactions and socialization they have shared in the past. Like humans, dogs are especially impressionable as their brains develop, so puppies up to 6 months old are in their key socialization period.
Give them all the things they enjoy most – their favourite toys, their favourite food. You know what will make your pet feel most at ease in the time that remains. If you become tearful, ask a family member, friend or other trusted person to take care of your pet so you can leave the room and have a cry.
This undoubtedly helped strengthen the early bond between humans and canines –– some veterinarians think that it can help with socialization to this day. Sleeping together lets the dog know they are a part of your pack and many people claim dogs are more easily trained when they sleep near their owners.
However, allowing your dog to sleep in your bed may encourage a problem that's already there. For example, sleeping in bed with you can reduce anxiety in dogs, but can also exacerbate separation anxiety in the long term as your dog becomes used to having you as support every night.
A dog who suddenly becomes disinterested in his pack may be experiencing a wide range of emotions, such as jealousy, anxiety or depression. Has anything changed in your home environment recently? Maybe someone moved into your home (or out of it). Maybe you've been taking him for walks less often than usual.
Your dog's SOS signals
Generally, there are three primary ways that you can tell when a dog needs your help: physiological changes, behavioral changes, and signs of pain or discomfort.