Look out for body language cues that signal that he is uncomfortable or disinterested in your interactions. He may try to move away from you, cross his arms in front of him, or turn away from you while you are talking. He may also try to avoid physical contact, like a hug or you touching his arm, he is not interested.
He doesn't make you a priority.
Notice if he often cancels plans with you, demotes you in favor of other friends and projects, or never seems to have time for you. Or perhaps he's always too busy to do things you want to do, but you see him spending time with his people regularly.
Guys that are into you often use lots of emojis, text first, or even double text. Watch for in-person signs, like holding eye contact, respectful little touches, or leaning in close. A follow-up text after a date or hangout, or a raincheck when he can't make it are sure signs that he wants to spend more time with you.
In general, he just seems to be energetically drawn to you in the room—as if his focus, body language, and general energy all just seem to be kind of focused on you. Even when he's off talking to someone else, there still seems to be the vibe that he's paying attention to you.
One of the obvious reasons why a guy may ignore or act disinterested in you is because he feels you are too good for him. He lacks the confidence to approach you or share his feelings with you, fearing you might reject him. He feels that sharing his true feelings might ruin your friendship with him.
Key Pointers. If a guy stares at you when you are not noticing or feels shy to talk when you are around, it may mean he has feelings for you but is scared to express them. He may often joke about going on a date with you, remember your smallest details, or start avoiding you for no reason.
One key indicator of whether a boy has a crush on you or not is how he treats other girls. If he treats other girls exactly the same way as he treats you, then he may not have a crush on you. But if he's pretty flirtatious with you and ignores or doesn't care much for other girls, then he may have a crush on you.
Men who are interested in you will likely face directly toward you during conversation. Even if you're with a group, he might turn his whole torso to face you. Watch to see if he's trying to “close you off” and keep you to himself.
He's less responsive to your texts and phone calls.
You used to text constantly or talk on the phone for hours, but lately, something is different. Signs a guy is losing interest through text include taking a long time to respond, being unavailable to chat, and a lack of enthusiasm when you do talk.
When upset, women are more likely to express their feelings directly and to seek the support of friends and family, whereas men might hide their emotions or withdraw. Men often feel that they need to be self-reliant and provide for their loved ones, so it is not appropriate to express their emotions.
There are a few dead giveaways that indicate he's interested. If he holds a hug for a super long time or he “accidentally” brushes your shoulder or touches you, he's probably into you. If he's just being friendly, he may smile and make eye contact, but he won't go out of his way to touch you.
Men tend to give you mixed signals when they are either not interested and planning to keep you as backup, are confused about what they want or even playing around. This behaviour can be very frustrating and it gets difficult to deal with that hot and cold attitude. So, to deal with such annoying mixed signals.
According to a large 2022 study, men tend to say “I love you” more quickly than women. It takes men an average of 108 days (about 4 months) to confess love and women an average of around 123 days (about 4 months).
1 He makes eye contact with you. 2 He smiles when he sees you. 3 He checks you out when you're not looking. 4 He leans in when you talk.
Maybe they aren't looking to be in a relationship right now, or they have something else going on in their lives that they need to focus on. It could be that they do think you're really great, but the timing is just off. If your crush needs that space, they are entitled to it.
He may have detected that you're interested in more than just hooking up, and he's trying to back away slowly. His sudden lack of interest could signal he wants to end things, or that he wants to keep you at a distance. Either way, if he's not interested in more than sex, and you are, it's probably not a good match.
On the most basic level, you are in the friend zone with someone if they only see you as a friend and don't have any romantic or sexual feelings for you. They might even see you like a sibling. This usually occurs with someone you've known for a while, such as a childhood friend or someone in a shared friend group.