Stop chasing someone who has made it clear they're not ready. Stop chasing someone who is full of excuses. Stop giving your time and energy to someone who has made it clear either with their words, their actions or lack thereof that they are not ready or they simply are not eager to be there fully for you.
Chasing after others can drain your energy and take time away from other important relationships in your life. If you have any relationships that have stood the test of time, these should be cherished, and they need attention, too.
“It's the same with sex and the classic chase - many men find the chase exciting and it strikes their ego to feel they're the one who is finally going to get her attention - and into bed. Add to this the fact that men are very goal focused and an elusive goal can seem all that much more interesting.
“Don't directly chase her for more than two weeks. If not, it can turn into harassment”
So, it's normal if this question is on your mind, if I stop chasing him, will he notice? The answer to that is a strong 'yes. ' Whether he enjoyed it or not, he would notice a change towards him.
The answer is Dopamine. A drug like chemical that pulsates the body in search of pleasure. The dopamine-driven reward loop triggers a rush of euphoric drug-like highs when chasing a crush and the desire to experience them repeatedly.
Many men feel that by being emotionally vulnerable they are being less of a man and this may be engraved deep into their psyche. Their insecurities are triggered and they fear rejection. So them pulling away could be their defence mechanism acting up.
Part of what makes a man chase a woman is in knowing he at least has a chance to win her over. Bringing out your flirty, feminine sides are fun ways to show a man you're interested in him by making him feel desired and giving him space to pursue you.
When a guy gives up chasing you, it could be because he has discovered that someone else is into him. He might have grown tired of waiting around for you and found someone else in the process. If he has been avoiding your calls and texts and is making excuses he might be ignoring you for someone else.
Chasing is a depowering state that shoots you down into a lower frequency while attracting is a power-filled state that raises your vibration to a higher frequency and attracts who and what you are meant to have.
Chasing someone is a thrill… one that you probably don't get to revel in when you're in a secure relationship. Scientifically, having a crush and falling for someone releases feel-good hormones like dopamine and adrenaline. Part of the chase is a chase for those brain chemicals, to feel those euphoric feelings again.
most men like women chasing us. The idea a woman is chasing us gives us an ego boost. It makes us feel better about ourselves. All people like to feel like we are needed, being chased by a woman makes us feel like that.
He may have detected that you're interested in more than just hooking up, and he's trying to back away slowly. His sudden lack of interest could signal he wants to end things, or that he wants to keep you at a distance. Either way, if he's not interested in more than sex, and you are, it's probably not a good match.
Guys tend to do this for two reason. First, they're not sure if you like them back. They don't want to be the one to basically put themselves out there and ask. Secondly, they love the thrill of being chased and want you to play along.
Pulling back might make a man want you more, or it could completely go the other way. If he senses you withdrawing, he might decide to give up rather than put in more effort. When you pull back, he might feel like he has no chance of getting your attention. Or he could feel like the whole situation is not worth it.
The chaser surrenders to the universe and develops a relationship with the universe which brings her back to finding the missing peace within her/him. When the chaser surrenders to the universe and lets the runner go, She (feminine energy) feels lonely and hurt and starts to trust the universe bit by bit.
As it turns out, women wanted intercourse to last a little longer than their partners. Women involved in the survey said that the time duration of 25 minutes and 51 seconds was considered to be "ideal", which gave them the feeling of having good sex and feeling satisfied.
Well, research suggests you can get over someone in three to six months, longer for a marriage (more on that in a bit).