Leave him alone when he pulls away
A lot of it is related to fear of commitment, which could be stemming from past relationship trauma. If you believe that your guy is pulling away, give him that space to deal with his emotions.
Stay away from him for a while
Sometimes, a guy pulls away after getting close if you give him too much attention. The only way your ex will begin to miss you is if you keep your distance from him. He may get irritated if you keep calling and texting – especially if you're begging him to take you back.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with the relationship or you. He is just stressed – it could be work, or maybe he is having some personal issues with his family, friends or health. Sometimes, pulling away is a form of defense mechanism. His past bad experiences can make him afraid of going through heartache again.
Space is especially important if he pulls away early in the relationship when you haven't been dating long. Don't chase him or contact him at all; this can send the message that you're overly attached to him. Chasing after him may end up pushing him away even more, whereas distance can help the heart grow fonder.
If you feel anxious, sad or angry more often than you feel happy and positive, it may be time to let your relationship go. You deserve (and likely will) find a relationship you're happy in, so don't waste your time and well-being in relationships that often make you feel bad.
He starts to miss you
What happens when you stop chasing a man? He starts to miss you. No more frequent random calls or text messages to catch his attention, and he starts to miss them. He will figure out he enjoyed the attention you gave him and the feeling that somebody out there cared for him.
Instead of waiting by the phone hoping he will call, do something productive or relaxing. Spend time with your friends, go to classes, pursue your passions, or explore the outdoors. Your availability matters, because if you're always free to hang out with him, he will not appreciate your presence as much.
The Reason Why It's Hard to Let Go
Relationships are one of the things that make life meaningful. Love doesn't go away overnight, even when the relationship ends. It's natural for it to take some time to be able to fully let go of anyone or anything that was once special to you.
Stand up for your truth without feeling guilty.
Some people may be offended or shocked that you call them out for hurting you and violating your boundaries. If this happens, don't feel guilty and don't let that stop you. You deserve to stand up for yourself and your emotional well-being.
Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
When a guy acts interested, then backs off, the reason has less likely to do with you and more to do with him. His past experiences could be coming in the way of your romantic dreams. Maybe, he has been abused, cheated on, or deeply hurt by a partner before, and thus, has his guards high up.
According to Helen Fisher and her colleagues, the reason romantic rejection gets us hooked is that this sort of rejection stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings.
Many people feel a sense of grief for the person and relationship they lost. Your significant other might very well experience intense sadness after you walk away as he grieves for what you had together. Being dumped can also cause him to question his self-worth and lower his self-esteem. He may miss you.
Ignoring a guy could make him want you more and it is the oldest trick in the book. It may sound counterintuitive, but it can be an effective way to get his attention and make him take notice of you. But there is a catch it can backfire resulting in him pulling away if you did not do it the right way.
Ignoring a guy is one of the surefire ways to get his attention, as he would at most times try to win your attention back. However, ignoring alone doesn't put you at the forefront of his thoughts and make you desirable.