Rejecting people is necessary to maintain personal boundaries and control over one's own life. Not wanting what someone else wants does not make you a "bad person." "The truth is that you're bound to hurt people's feelings," says Chan. "Don't do it on purpose. Don't do it for the hell of it.
Blaming ourselves and attacking our self-worth only deepens the emotional pain we feel and makes it harder for us to recover emotionally,” Winch said. Relationship expert and therapist Nicole McCance, says being left for someone else is the hardest type of rejection.
They may not be interested in dating and relationships and instead are only for hookups. They may already be taken, and so they have no interest in meeting and dating new men. (Up to half of them will be married.) There may be too much going on in their lives, and they have no time for love.
A guy feels an ego boost after rejecting a girl. That's the first response. Or he could feel sad if there's another reason he's not telling you. If he is keeping in touch it's only because you two are still friends.
Respect and accept their decision. Put yourself in their shoes: if you'd just rejected someone and they kept trying to ask you out you'd wonder why they didn't get the message the first time.
“Men have been taught since the earliest of times to protect their masculinity," says psychotherapist Jaime Gleicher, LMSW. "When they're rejected, they associate it with their masculinity. When that's threatened by an outside source, they tend to fight for it—also as a way to re-prove their manliness.”
Tell the other person the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like about him or her. Then say why you want to move on. "Honesty" doesn't mean "harsh." Don't pick apart the other person's qualities as a way to explain what's not working.
Try saying to the flirter, "I don't want to sound mean, or rude, but I believe in being up-front and honest. I'm afraid I have to tell you, I'm not interested in going out with you. Sorry, but at least this way, we won't waste each other's time." If you genuinely like the person, you can then ask, "Are you ok?
Several specific emotions arise from the prospect or presence of rejection, including hurt feelings, loneliness, jealousy, guilt, shame, social anxiety, embarrassment, sadness, and anger.
A rejection does more than people realise it can lower self confidence make you feel unwanted and maybe even lonely and pointless. If he is ignoring you he is probably getting over the rejection in his own way without making things awkward for everybody just give him time and space.
Rejection can cause us to feel a slew of emotions, ranging from confusion to sadness to rage. Oftentimes, people don't understand exactly why they've been rejected, which can lead to a downward spiral of negative introspection and an overall sense of not feeling “good enough.”
