Red flags in a guy or girl can be signs of narcissism, aggression, victimization, or even abusive behavior. By becoming aware of some common red flags, you can avoid getting involved in a toxic relationship.
How do you know if a guy wants a relationship or just a fling?
Men looking for a fling will not invest their time in you. If a man wants a relationship, he will make plans to meet you and will not ghost you or leave you without any response. If he is interested, you will not have to seek his attention continuously. If you are doing so, it means he is not into you.
Any guy who makes you feel like you can conquer anything in the world, understands you, makes you feel happy and safe, and does right by you is worth marrying. Even after seeing the worst possible sides of you, if he still makes you feel safe without any insecurities, then he is the one.
However, research indicates that men tend to know they've found the one around seven months into a relationship. In other cases, a man might just know right away. In fact, some men say they were sure after the first date or even after the first conversation. Ultimately, it all depends on the individual.
Typically, that means that he sees you as more than just a casual fling—but don't rush into it. Ideally, it should be his suggestion. However, if you've been seeing each other for a few months, asking this could give you an idea of what he thinks of your relationship.
Notice if he often cancels plans with you, demotes you in favor of other friends and projects, or never seems to have time for you. Or perhaps he's always too busy to do things you want to do, but you see him spending time with his people regularly.
Simply stated, if the relationship is causing more hardship than anything else, what's the point? "When you fight more often than not, it's time to consider leaving. And if even at its best the relationship was never really good, you'll likely be happier if you leave the relationship," Leeds tells mbg.
Try something like, “So we've been hanging out for a little while, and I'm starting to have feelings for you. Would you like to be my girlfriend?” Or, “We've been friends for so long, I feel like I know you so well. I really like you, and I wanted to ask if you'd like to be my girlfriend.”
Men are generally attracted to women who make them feel good about themselves and for that to happen a woman needs to be open and demonstrative with her feelings. Positive body language, smiling, laughing and words of appreciation will help a man see the potential in a relationship.
Ask yourself: Do they get along with the other people in my life? Do I get along with their friends and family? Do we have mutual interests and things that we enjoy doing together that can be a source of sustainability in a relationship? If the answer is yes, then you may be on the right track."
When someone is truly "the one," they will make time to be with you, listen to you (even if they don't agree), and support you. "There will be a feeling of comfort, like you fit together. You can be yourself without fear of rejection or criticism," says Doares. "No aspect of their life will be separate from you.
