Men first speak in a sing-song type of voice and then adjust it to a lower tone when they are talking to someone they find attractive. Some experts believe men modulate their voices first as a way to put women at ease and then lower the tone of their voice to sound more masculine.
Turns out that's what most guys do. And so do most women. Researchers found that, "Both sexes used a lower-pitched voice and showed a higher level of physiological arousal when speaking to the more attractive, opposite-sex target.
Sounding the same
Another phenomenon that may also cause changes in the way we speak when talking to a love interest is something called “phonetic convergence”. People who talk to each other tend to start sounding more similar, completely unaware they are doing so.
It's not about what your date is saying, but the pitch of their voice. If they lower their pitch, it could be a subtle, subconscious sign they find you attractive, the study, in The Royal Society Proceedings B journal, suggests. Experts say it is probably an evolutionary tool to attract a mate.
According to a study from 2017, it's common for people to change the pitch of their voice depending on who they're speaking to. The study, from researchers at Scotland's University of Stirling found that people change the pitch of their voice in accordance to how dominant they feel in the conversation.
Scott Bea, a psychologist at the Cleveland Clinic, said the changes in pitch may have biological roots. Guys are going to talk in a low-pitched voice rather than a high-pitched voice in order to draw the attraction of female partners, he said.
It's an evolutionary response for men to calmly raise their vocal pitch when speaking to a member of the opposite sex, he says. It conveys tenderness, trustworthiness, and lack of aggression. (And you do the same thing around kids, he adds.)
If his voice seems to trail off when the two of you are talking, it's not likely he is interested in you. But if his voice is deep and present, and asking questions about what you are saying; he is probably crushing on you too.
“Several studies suggest that a lower pitch in women is perceived as attractive or 'sexy',” Dr Pisanski said. “Women with relatively high-pitched voices are typically perceived as more feminine, younger and more attractive than are women with low-pitched voices.
The first sign a man is in love begins with the softening of his rough edges. Even the toughest, most alpha of males will show love by softening his voice and relax his demeanor around the woman he loves.
A flirty voice is playful and light, sometimes sarcastic and witty. It gives you that tingle down your spine, and it makes the listener feel special, maybe even shy. It's the kind of voice you might hear on a TV network promo or commercial spot.
The pitch of someone's voice also contributes to how attractive they're perceived. “Males, in general, tend to find female voices that have a slightly higher pitch and are slightly breathier more attractive than female voices that are slightly lower in pitch,” says Monahan.
If you notice he is making more eye contact with you or you catch a guy staring at you, he is probably attracted to you. He may be enthralled by your good looks and may be fantasizing about kissing you. Perhaps he stares at you and smiles; that could mean he likes you, too.
According to a new study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, guys vary their vocal pitch, shifting between both high and low tones of voice, when talking to a woman they find attractive.
Paying attention to a man's body language clues can help you decipher whether he is interested. If a man likes you, he may sit facing you with his legs spread open. This indicates that he is open and receptive to you.
Edit: It just means he finds you appealing and therefore wants to treat you gently, since he views you as valuable. It could have to do with a more traditional perspective on women as well. So, in simple terms, it's a positive reaction to you.
Various studies demonstrate that people associate a deep voice with dominance, but those with higher pitched voices are perceived as nervous or neurotic.
"When a woman naturally lowers her voice, it may be perceived as her attempt to sound more seductive or attractive, and therefore serves as a signal of her romantic interest," she adds. Their research also measured people's awareness of the changes in others' voices.
Research confirms that deep voices give men an aura of power and sexual allure. Men with low, resonant voices are more likely to be perceived as attractive, masculine, respectable, and dominant.
The larger a guy's larynx, the thicker the vocal cords, and the bigger the resonating area, the deeper his voice will be. Once your larynx has grown, your voice will be more stable and easier to control.