How long will it take for an avoidant ex to come back?

Every avoidant is different, but deactivation generally lasts anywhere from a few days to a few weeks. Most fearful avoidants will reach out or begin responding again after 2 – 5 days because they want connection and feel happier in relationships.

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How long until an avoidant ex reaches out?

See if there is a pattern and in how long they pull away and lean back in. If your dismissive avoidant ex regularly pulls away for a few days at a time, wait for them to reach out or respond. If it's more than 5 – 7 days since you last heard from them, send a check-in text.

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Do avoidant dumpers ever come back?

It's not a secret that people with a dismissive avoidant attachment style tend to return to relationships, but the reasons “why they do” might not be as clear as you'd think.

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Do Avoidants eventually come back?

We have found that on average a fearful avoidant will not initiate a reconnection with you. However, there is a window of time where they do consider it and if you time it right you can get them to come back if that's what you want.

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Will my avoidant ex ever contact me again?

They sometimes come back. But in the case of avoidants, they're usually just done with it, feeling relief, celebrating their freedom, and moving on pretty quickly. In the sense that they come back, you get back together and things ACTUALLY change and get better— No.

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What makes an avoidant EX come back

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Do avoidants regret breaking up?

In spite of the fact that avoidants may regret breaking up, they may regard their ex-partner negatively, and convince themselves that the breakup was their ex's fault. Thus, they may talk themselves into thinking that the breakup was the best decision they ever made.

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Does no contact work on Avoidants?

A fearful avoidant during no contact acts slightly differently from other attachment styles. Going no contact with them can become extremely distracting and often requires a lot of discipline. The fearful-avoidant does not express remorse or sadness over heartbreak in the initial weeks of the breakup.

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Do avoidants ever miss their ex?

They have emotions the same way that we do, they just feel them differently and they don't feel them as intensely as a person that is anxious preoccupied. What they miss about the relationship is the togetherness and the closeness. They may not miss the relationship in itself because relationships take a lot of work.

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Do Avoidants reach out after no contact?

They're always looking for the red flags, and they will find them, so when you go no contact with the dismissive avoidant, don't expect them to reach out to you.

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How do Avoidants act after a breakup?

Dismissive-avoidant after breakup: short-term

So in the aftermath of a painful breakup, they are less likely to turn to friends and family. They want to deal with things on their own. And when it comes to challenging, romantic feelings, airing their 'dirty laundry' is often the last thing they want to do.

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How long do Avoidants pull away for?

An avoidant may also deactivate longer if you act needy, upset and angry when they need space away from you to feel safe again. Since fearful avoidants usually reach out after deactivating for 2 – 5 days, wait up to 3 days to see if they'll reach out before reaching out.

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How long do Avoidants disappear for?

As far as the dismissive more specifically, most likely they'll just fade to black and you won't hear from them after that first month. Around almost a two month mark is when the dismissive avoidant is going to really start to feel things.

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Why do Avoidants discard you?

Often there are no real clues before they dump you. They won't have had the hard conversations. The Dismissive-Avoidant is afraid of, and can't tolerate true intimacy. They were raised to not depend on anyone, or reveal any feelings, so their first instinct when someone gets close to them - is to run away.

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Do Avoidants move on quickly?

Dismissive Avoidants Aren't As Likely To Quickly Jump Into Another Relationship. Fearful Avoidants Are More Likely To Be Caught In On Again/Off Again Relationships.

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How long do avoidant rebounds last?

Rebound relationships, in most cases, last from a few months to a year. They usually don't last in the long term because the rebounding partner has not moved on from their previous partner. In rare cases, they may last for years. The longevity of a relationship depends on the understanding between the partners.

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How long is the no contact rule with an avoidant ex?

It might be in your best interest to extend your no contact period to a 45 day no contact rule because of the fact that your ex probably tends to be more avoidant by nature. Longer no contact gives you more time to outgrow your ex.

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Do Avoidants push away people they love?

Avoidantly attached people are prone to “shutting down, numbing, rigid compartmentalizing, and pushing away,” Mary Chen, LFMT, tells SELF. And these suppression techniques can feel “exactly like rejection” to their partners, making it hard to approach—and therefore understand—avoidants!

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What hurts an avoidant?

Because people with an avoidant attachment style fear not being lovable or good enough, feeling criticized or judged by loved ones can be particularly painful. Especially when it comes to things that they are not so comfortable with, such as their emotions and feelings.

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Do Avoidants care if you move on?

At first an avoidant will go through this period of separation elation and often won't feel your loss until they perceive that you have moved on. At that point they start to reminisce and could potentially start caring if you leave.

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Do Avoidants care about you?

Avoidants tend to not want to give anything or anybody their time or their energy. If it doesn't serve them any purpose, they won't do it. So if they are with you and they are giving you their time, that is a really good indication that they care about you and they are putting you as a priority.

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Do avoidants have abandonment issues?

If you're an avoidant attacher with abandonment issues, you may keep people at arm's length to avoid them getting too close and meaning too much, due to a belief deep down that they will leave at some point. These behaviors may make you seem private, withdrawn, or emotionally unavailable to others.

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What to do when an avoidant pushes you away?

​ If an avoidant starts pulling away, let them know that you care but do not chase them. It may be very painful to do this, but pursuing them is likely to make it take longer for them to come back. They need breathing space, to feel safe with their own thoughts and unengulfed.

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Do avoidants feel rejection?

While the fearful-avoidant can also suffer from rejection sensitivity, it takes center stage when someone displays an anxious-preoccupied style.

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Do Avoidants end up alone?

Attachment Avoidance & Social Loneliness

Studies have found that avoidant attachers are less likely to date or seek relationships. In other words, they are more prone to having smaller social circles and, thus, may stay single for longer periods of time.

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Do avoidants have fear of abandonment?

Instead, avoidant attachers often dissociate and “flee” from their fear of rejection and closeness. They typically develop a fierce sense of independence as they expect that others will let them down. So to avoid becoming a target, they learn to rely only on themselves.

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