Humility is sometimes referred to as the quiet virtue or the quiet strength. Rightfully so, as humility involves thinking less of ourselves and the noisy internal “ego” in our head and quietly focusing on others.
But humility has nothing to do with meekness or weakness. And neither does it mean being self-effacing or submissive. Humility is an attitude of spiritual modesty that comes from understanding our place in the larger order of things. It entails not taking our desires, successes, or failings too seriously.
Quiet people are more likely to be introverts than extroverts and tend to be more creative and sensitive than the average person. They also tend to be private people who don't like being in large crowds or socializing much at all unless it's necessary for work or school.
Shyness doesn't always necessarily equate to humility. However, in more instances, shy people are less likely to be as outspoken and arrogant in public settings as extroverted individuals. I'm a relatively shy person, in real life, but I can be rude sometimes but only to people I'm close and familiar with.
Silence isn't always a bad thing. If you're a shy and quiet one with some awkwardness deep down, don't feel bad for being that way. We are all born the way we were supposed to be and it's okay to be different and not like other people. If everyone in the world was outgoing, there wouldn't be any silence.
Given that research shows that people find confidence attractive, this can be quite beneficial. The simple fact that you remain quieter when others are actively engaged in debate and conversation might give the impression that you are confident in your own opinions and beliefs.
People generally want to find out more about introverts, and this sponsors their attractive aura. Not only do introverts have calm composures, but they're also incredibly intriguing, and people unconsciously love it.
In fact, psychologists have consistently found that both men and women rate humility as one of the most desirable traits in a partner. And what group of people are much more likely than average to have this highly sought-after trait? Yep, shy people.
“Studies have found that introverts are more humble than extroverts. Humility is an incredibly important — and hard to learn trait. It makes introverts more perceptive, more open and less bogged down by ego. Humility is also associated with the desire to be of service to others.”
Your modesty is endearing
And they're perceived as very personable as a result. While bolder types may wade in and immediately take charge of a conversation, you prefer to hold back and listen. To others, you appear modest, empathetic and non-threatening, which are all attractive qualities.
An introvert is a person with qualities of a personality type known as introversion, which means that they feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas, rather than what's happening externally.
With all of the constant noise you hear on a day-to-day basis, embracing silence can help stimulate your brain and help you process information. It can also help you become more self-aware and relieve stress. Embracing silence may also help you settle into the present moment and quiet any racing thoughts.
Quiet people have power because they are willing to spend more time and energy on self-reflection, which helps to know oneself, practice self, stimulate potential, and improve self-personality.
Humility is the ability to see others as equals. In order to be humble, one must never belittle or make fun of another person in any way. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, but also the need to be better than other people. Humble people do not feel this way and instead respect others for their work.
A humble person is more socially-oriented than self-centered. Being humble means you not only evaluate yourself with honesty, but also always seek honest feedback from people who matter. By getting other people's reviews, humble people ensure that they are not misguided about their own abilities.
But introverts are great leaders too. Introverted but well-regarded leaders include Abraham Lincoln, Eleanor Roosevelt, Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks, and Mahatma Gandhi. And beyond the anecdotal examples, there's solid research suggesting introverts are quiet, but powerful leaders.
Too Much Stimulation Leaves You Feeling Distracted
Researchers have found that introverts tend to be more easily distracted than extroverts,5 which is part of the reason why introverts tend to prefer a quieter, less harried setting. If you tend to feel overwhelmed in busy social situations, you may be an introvert.
Introverts are loyal and devoted friends.
People are attracted to loyal and devoted people. While introverts may not always realize it, this is a trait most people find attractive in them. Their loyalty isn't just attractive to the recipients of that devotion, but to anyone who observes them.
Studies show that introverted or shy men are likely to be attracted to both shy and outgoing women, while extroverted men may have a preference for outgoing women.
Introverts are often mysterious, because you don't learn all about them in one go. I briefly mentioned this, where I said introverts don't spill their thoughts straight away. They are cerebral beings. They think before they speak.
In reality, guys don't dislike shy girls at all. They find them mysterious and totally appealing. In fact, many guys actually dislike dating girls who can't stop talking. Being shy is an advantage.
Though introverts may be perceived as intimidating due to these qualities, they simply have different priorities and values. This is the way they are, and it works for them. Introverts do not intentionally intimidate others; they just tend to get caught up in doing so inadvertently.
A likeable quiet person may not say much, but you can tell by their expressions and body language that they are paying attention to the people around them. They appear interested and they focus on whomever is speaking. They tend to smile and, sometimes nod their heads in agreement or acknowledgment.
Well, yes and no. Introverts, like any other personality type, fall in love at a pace that is subjective to each individual. However introverts, unlike extroverts and ambiverts, don't share how they feel with everyone around them.