“First kisses usually aren't perfect—this is real life, not a rom-com,” shares relationship expert Laurie Davis, founder of eFlirt.com. Take note of the kiss, but don't rule out a guy just because the first kiss was slightly awkward—kissing is an intimate thing, so it's bound to be a little weird at first.
Chances are, your first kiss will be gentle and sweet. It may possibly be that you and your partner are both new to the kissing scene so they may not know what to do either. Although the experience may not be that long, the tender feeling of the person's lips will stay with you for a very long time.
"Your biological stress system is actually activated when you have your first kiss," Seiter says. "But, this doesn't mean you're stressed out. You'll experience increased heart rate, sweating, or butterflies in your stomach; a physiological excitement response."
"In an ideal world, all of our first milestones when we start dating someone would go perfectly, but in the real world, you can have an awkward or bad first kiss with someone you end up with for the rest of your life, the same way that you can have an amazing first kiss with someone who you'll never see again," ...
Along with the oxytocin and dopamine that make you feel affection and euphoria, kissing releases serotonin — another feel-good chemical. It also lowers cortisol levels so you feel more relaxed, making for a good time all around.
If kissing is never pleasurable for you, you may be one of them. Your girlfriend might be, too. Some people are repulsed by kissing; some are indifferent about it. Some only like it on grounds of liking to do things their partner enjoys, rather than due to liking the activity itself.
No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5.
You experience an adrenaline rush: When you kiss someone for the first time, your body will release a burst of adrenaline (the fight-or-flight chemical) which increases your heart rate, boosts your energy levels and gets the blood flowing.
You'll probably also notice that he's blushing or breathing a little more heavily. A passionate makeout session releases adrenaline–not only does it kick up his heart rate, but it also boosts his energy. Check if he suddenly seems happy and hyper.
Kissing comes naturally but our techniques can evolve.
So while all of us seem to be programmed to know what to do, we pick up culture-specific techniques from movies and TV. Still, Kirshenbaum said, "There are definitely things people can learn to make it a better experience."