Swearing at a child can take a toll on a child's mental state, self-esteem, and overall emotional wellbeing. More study is needed, but overall most clinicians and physicians would agree swearing at a child with the intent to demean or harm them repeatedly, is abusive.
Swearing in the context of verbal abuse can also certainly lead to negative effects. For example, a 2007 study in The Journal of Early Adolescence correlated kids exposed to more abusive homophobic slurs with increased stress, anxiety, depression and a decreased sense of belonging.
No, it is not normal nor acceptable for parents to curse their child.
Verbal abuse often forms part of an ongoing pattern of controlling behaviour. It's not “only” verbal abuse and it's not any less serious – or less damaging – than physical abuse. We've listed some examples of verbally abusive behaviour below: Swearing at you.
“They will pick the words they hear most frequently and the words spoken with the most animation. So if you don't want your kids to use cuss words, which is a nice goal, you would want to stop cussing before they are even a year of age.”
Studies have shown that swearing relieves stress, dulls the sensation of pain, fosters camaraderie among peers and is linked with traits like verbal fluency, openness and honesty. And the effects of cursing are physical as well as mental.
There are 5 (five) types of swearing function according to Pinker. They are dysphemistic, idiomatic, abusive, emphatic, and cathartic swearing.
Know the effects verbal abuse can have.
If your parent or parents are verbally abusing, it is likely to have negative consequences in your life. Severe verbal abuse can even lead to the same kind of post-traumatic stress disorder experienced by combat troops.
Some of the likely spiritual effects of parental curses are lack of physical blessing, sickness, lack of protection from evil attacks among others(Jacobs A. B 1977: 238). In like manner, parental blessings bring about prosperity, protection from spiritual attacks, guaranteed backing and support of parents.
Do not use the f-word if you are not an adult. Although there's no hard-lines or consensus on a certain age, the general recommendation will be: Never use the f-word if you are under the age of 13. Strongly avoid using the word if you are under the age of 18.
Tell him that the phrase is a euphemism for the commonly used swear word. Then tell him that the word itself is a vulgar way of saying "to have sex". At 12 he should understand what sex is. If he doesn't, then you should have that discussion.
Teen angst can be difficult to deal with but screaming or swearing at your child is proven to be ineffective. Parents who use harsh verbal discipline with teens are found to actually aggravate problematic behavior and increase symptoms of depression in their children, according to the study's findings.
A 2014 study in The Journal of Child Development demonstrated that yelling produces results similar to physical punishment in children: increased levels of anxiety, stress and depression along with an increase in behavioral problems.
It releases stress
"Cursing can be an effective emotional release, especially for anger and frustration," explains Laura MacLeod, LMSW practicing in New York.
Inappropriate swearing can be observed in frontal lobe damage, Tourette's disorder, and aphasia. Swearing is positively correlated with extraversion and is a defining feature of a Type A personality.
Coprolalia is the medical term used to describe one of the most puzzling and socially stigmatizing symptoms of Tourette Syndrome—the involuntary outburst of obscene words or socially inappropriate and derogatory remarks.
Emotional abuse includes: humiliating or constantly criticising a child. threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names. making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child.
Is swearing at your child abusive? Swearing at a child can take a toll on a child's mental state, self-esteem, and overall emotional wellbeing. More study is needed, but overall most clinicians and physicians would agree swearing at a child with the intent to demean or harm them repeatedly, is abusive.
Provide Consequences
If your child swears when they are angry, a time-out can be a good way to teach them how to calm down before they say something that will get them into trouble. A “swear jar” is another means of discipline.