Heyoka empath
“Heyoka” means “sacred clown” or “spiritual fool” in the Lakota and Dakota Native American dialects. Heyoka empaths are said to be the rarest and most powerful variety, acting as a spiritual mirror to those around them to assist their growth.
Every empath has the gift of perception. You can find the deeper meaning to things others cannot even perceive. You can see life in a way others can't see. You understand things others can't comprehend.
Others, though, will thrive in an environment where they can help others and provide emotional support. Empaths have a connection to others' emotions and an ability to understand their experiences. They are great listeners and are often sought out for advice. These traits make them well-suited to be psychologists.
Empaths do well being self-employed business owners, writers, editors, health care professionals, artists and in other creative professions. Many actor and musicians such as Claire Danes, Alanis Morissette, Scarlett Johansson, and Jim Carrey have admitted to being “highly sensitive.”
You don't always know which emotions are yours. This is probably the biggest ongoing challenge empaths face. When you're constantly absorbing emotional information from other people, it can be hard to know what you're feeling from others vs. your own thoughts and emotions.
The narcissist in this position will take advantage of the empath and see their compassion as weakness. The attraction between the two is profoundly due to their complementary desires, unhealthy as it may be to seek attention and validation from one another.
Although empathy is a relatively common human ability, empaths are people with higher-than-normal sensitivity that only make up around 2% of the population.
Empaths and intimate relationships
While empaths can make wonderful caring friends, in a romantic relationship they can often find it difficult. Empaths tend to love hard and intensely, experiencing deep feelings of connection.
Personality types ENFP, ENFJ, INFJ, and INFPs are natural empaths per the MBTI Personality types. Empaths are also called Idealists & Diplomats. Highly Sensitive People belong to these MBTI types.
Intellectuals can make good partners for certain empaths because their sense of logic compliments and grounds an empath's emotional intensity. Ask for help. Intellectuals love to solve problems. Be very specific about ways they can assist you with a problem or task.
Empaths are usually introverts, and they require a certain amount of alone time in order to recharge. A study from 2011 suggests there may be a link between highly empathic individuals and social anxiety.
The empath concept is controversial. Opinion is divided on whether empaths actually exist. There is also debate around some abilities associated with empaths. For instance, empaths are thought to have special skills in reading others, detecting lying, and healing.
Compared to someone who is highly sensitive (empathetic vs. empathic), an empath has a greater sensory awareness and feels extremely emotional about others, their surroundings, and the visual images or media they're exposed to. (You'll often hear empaths say even TV commercials can elicit spontaneous crying).
Being an empath is not something you can control; it is something that you are born with. It is a wonderful gift to be so in tune with your and other people's emotions, but it can become difficult. You are not alone.
Both an empath and narcissist are very sensitive individuals but in different ways. Empaths may internalize what other people are going through, blaming themselves for being unable to make others feel better. And on the other hand, narcissists tend to intensely dislike criticism or feelings of inadequacy.
When empaths are exposed to early trauma or abuse their young nervous system may develop without healing making them hypervigilant. They can become exquisitely attuned to their environment to ward off threats and ensure they are safe or enter a state of hyperarousal.
Watching violent news; being around sarcastic, critical, or narcissistic people; or spending days at an amusement park are not things empaths enjoy. To feel their best, empaths need to minimize or avoid situations like this unless they want to end up feeling exhausted, drained, used, or anxious.
Empaths are emotionally intelligent individuals, so they can often understand and connect with their partners in a deep and meaningful way. They are also typically very supportive and understanding, which can make them great partners in times of need.
As mentioned before, being an empath comes with loads of superpowers and, in the famous words of Uncle Ben: “With great power comes great responsibility”. If you are an Empath, one of those responsibilities is to take care of yourself first so you can better take care of others.
As an empath in a tense moment, your heart rate may quicken even more than normal. Your anger may feel heightened, your sadness more intense. It's harder to control your own emotions because you have your emotions and your partner's emotions running through your body.
But empathy can have a dark side. Some people, known as dark empaths, understand the feelings of others but don't feel these feelings themselves. They might act like they care, but deep down, they don't feel sympathy for you or have a desire to help. They use their understanding of your feelings to manipulate you.
Highly empathetic individuals may be more emotionally intelligent. This is because they can use their perspective to guide their actions. However, this means empaths need to be able to regulate their own emotions, particularly their emotional response to others, to take constructive action.