He becomes easily irritable and lashes out at every small thing, especially if he used to be a lovely person. He's closed off emotionally from you. You feel as though reaching him for a heart-to-heart has become mission impossible. He tries to stay away from anything that reminds him of the relationship.
Lacking Trust, Blaming Each Other, and Comparing
Several factors could lead to an unhappy and unhealthy marriage. Lack of trust is one of the biggest culprits. Not believing or trusting each other is difficult when there has been infidelity in the relationship. The second factor is blaming each other for mistakes.
What makes a man unhappy in a marriage can be subjective but the signs tend to manifest themselves in somewhat similar ways. According to studies, the most common causes of divorce are lack of commitment, infidelity, and/or constant arguments.
Key Takeaways. Less or no communication for days and weeks is a sign that he does not love you anymore. If he constantly wants you to change yourself, it is a clear sign of losing interest in you. Even after many messes, never being sorry from his side can indicate you are no longer a priority to him.
You've lost interest
Once chatting about these general day-to-day topics no longer interests either of you, it's time to decide whether you've outgrown each another. "In love, you know your relationship is over when you become completely indifferent to them," says Rachel.
You're checked out.
"If one partner is looking to fix and the other partner isn't interested then I think the decision has been made," says Liberman. Another you sign you have "checked out" of your relationship is that you no longer have future plans or goals to grow as a couple, explains Mujib.
Your relationship leaves you constantly feeling drained.
Even if you're not constantly fighting, that doesn't mean your relationship can't leave you feeling utterly depleted. If every second you spend with your spouse makes you feel emotionally and physically drained, that's one of the signs your marriage is over.
The answer often lies in boredom and opportunity. If a man is bored in his marriage or believes something is lacking sexually or emotionally, he may start looking for reasons to leave a relationship for someone new. Sometimes men run away when they fall in love, looking to rekindle the spark of singleness.
In a study done by Pennsylvania State University, the top reasons men listed for divorce was incompatibility, infidelity, lack of communication and personality problems.
They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, according to Mental-Health-Matters.
If you feel like you're playing a part, behaving and responding based on how you think you should rather than authentically, you might want to reassess what's going on. If you're not able to be authentically yourself around your partner, flaws and bad moods and all, it might not be the right relationship for you.
There's No Emotional Connection
One of the key signs your relationship is ending is that you are no longer vulnerable and open with your partner. A cornerstone of happy, healthy relationships is that both partners feel comfortable being truly open to sharing thoughts and opinions with one another.
Someone who cares about you is going to engage you in conversation. He's going to send you cute messages and try to make you laugh. If you're finding “he always talks sexually to me” when he texts you or he never goes out of his way to keep in touch throughout the day, your man is probably using you.
Fear. The threat of physical violence, further emotional abuse, harming your children by depriving them of a nuclear family, and concern about how friends and family will perceive them are commonly-cited reasons why people may choose to stay in an unhappy marriage.
A 2002 study found that two-thirds of unhappy adults who stayed together were happy five years later. They also found that those who divorced were no happier, on average, than those who stayed together. In other words, most people who are unhappily married—or cohabiting—end up happy if they stick at it.
When a marriage is unhealthy, issues of control are usually evident. Finances are an easy weapon of control. One partner starts deciding how money is spent and how much the other spouse can spend. Control can also spill over into areas like friendships and outside activities.
A loveless marriage is a relationship where one or both partners do not feel in love. Instead of being romantic lovers, they often feel more like roommates or siblings. Being in a loveless marriage often breeds isolation, resentment, and hopelessness.