Relationships fall apart all the time for various reasons — cheating, jealousy, distance, or sometimes it just isn't a match. Sometimes, things are beyond our control. Sometimes the timing just isn't right, sometimes we just can't make it work because there is too much fundamental incompatibility.
So dangerous to a healthy, loving relationship are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Relationship Destroyer #1: Keeping Your Attention on What's Wrong. Many people habitually keep their attention on everything negative that their partner does. By focusing on what's wrong, we create thinking habits that generate a sense of unrest and dissatisfaction within ourselves and the relationship.
While each situation is different, there are a variety of reasons why relationships don't go the distance. The main reasons why relationships fail are loss of trust, poor communication, lack of respect, a difference in priorities, and little intimacy.
Spouses lose their connection to each other for some common reasons—infidelity, financial stress, a decline of affection, or incompatibility—and so experts suggest that couples remain vigilant about these challenges even during their honeymoon period and, if those issues become insurmountable, they honestly assess ...
1. Trust Issues. The lack or loss of trust is one of the most harmful impediments to a couple's long-term success. Without trust, a relationship misses two of the key anchors for forging and maintaining a strong bond: safety and security.
Stonewalling is when a person in a relationship withdraws from an interaction, shuts down, and simply stops responding to their partner. Rather than confronting the issue, people who stonewall resort to evasive maneuvers.
Being too busy
The need to balance between work, friends and family often leaves the relationship unattended. Many people give tight schedules as the reason they no longer spend time with their loved ones. If this happens over a long periods of time, the two become strangers and the relationship simply dissolves.
conflict– if there is ongoing conflict in your relationship, it can be difficult to develop intimacy. It is not easy to feel close to someone you are arguing with. Anger, hurt, resentment, lack of trust, or a sense of being unappreciated can all affect intimacy.
Aside from all-out abusive behavior, blaming and shaming may be the fastest way to kill your connection.
1. Lack of Honesty. Often when we think of honesty, notably honesty in marital relationships, we think of a very tangible “where were you last night” kind of honesty. While this is obviously critically important, there are many other kinds of dishonesty that can destroy marriages.
Many men are bothered by women who constantly intrude, always want know everything, and constantly ask questions. It's important to communicate with your significant other, but when they butt in on EVERY conversation and want to impose their opinions, it makes it harder to want to include them.
There are specific behaviors that have a toxic effect on relationships: Being selfish or demanding, behaving as if you have power over your partner. Acting out the role of parent or child, by showing submission or dominance. Using emotional coercion or manipulation to get what you want.
Here are seven bad habits to break today. Don't compare yourself to others, don't let the past influence your present and future, don't listen to advice, don't expect the worst, take risks, worry about yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself.
It's not too late to reverse your worst habits (stopping smoking, drinking, over-eating, and more) and immediately start living a happier, healthier life. Overeating, worshipping the sun, spending beyond your means—we all know these habits fall squarely into the bad-for-you category.
And while there are many natural reasons why relationships don't work out – timing, diverging growth trajectories, differing values, and so on – there are three avoidable reasons that will cause any relationship to fail: non-acceptance, lack of trust, and poor communication.
Every relationship can be unique, and the reasons for breakups can be just as unique. Still, there may be several common reasons that relationships come to an end. These can include infidelity, lack of effort, fading feelings, loss of trust, and a pattern of unproductive or unhealthy fighting.
The most destructive relationship behaviours are those the Gottmann Institute has deemed the 'Four Horsemen' – criticism, defensiveness, contempt (eye-rolling, disgust, dismissal or ridiculing), stonewalling, and the silent treatment. Of these, contempt has been shown to be the greatest predictor of divorce.