Buddha's message is that you deserve a life where you can move on and find happiness by letting go of hate. Letting go of hatred, thereby, making room for the positive aspects of life will lead to inner peace.
Buddhism, on the other hand, says that anger is always bad. The 8th-century Buddhist scholar Shantideva described anger as the most extreme negative force, one with the capability of destroying the good we've worked so hard to create. Think about that.
In his early teachings, the Buddha identified “three poisons,” or three fires, or three negative qualities of the mind that cause most of our problems—and most of the problems in the world. The three poisons are: greed (raga, also translated as lust), hatred (dvesha, or anger), and delusion (moha, or ignorance).
Buddhism teaches mindfulness. Being mindful of ourselves is part of that. When an unpleasant emotion or thought arises, do not suppress it, run away from it, or deny it. Instead, observe it and fully acknowledge it.
“I defeat my enemies when I make them my friends.”
In Buddhism, to take refuge in the Dharma—one of the Three Jewels—one should not harm other sentient beings. The Nirvana Sutra states, "By taking refuge in the precious Dharma, One's minds should be free from hurting or harming others".
One unwittingly produces their own dukkha/suffering and creating bad karma by seeking revenge. Hatred, greed, and delusion are considered to be the three kleshas or psychological poisons or vices, according to Buddhism. These kleshas produce attachment and thus dukkha/suffering.
In a manner entirely characteristic of Buddhist psychology, the presence of a grudge is seen to be a problem for its subject rather than of its object.
The antidote to a destructive emotion is a constructive emotion. To fight anger, hatred, and fear, we must develop compassion, love, and patience. Destructive emotions are impulsive — they are based on misconceptions and illogical reasons.
The five principal kleshas, which are sometimes called poisons, are attachment, aversion, ignorance, pride, and jealousy.
The Dhammasangāni [5] regard five acts – matricide, parricide, slaying an Arhat, slaying a Buddha, and causing division among priesthood to be five unpardonable sins.
Buddhists believe in the cycle of samsara , which is the cycle of birth, life, death and rebirth. This means that people will experience suffering many times over. All of the things a person goes through in life cause suffering and they cannot do anything about it.
Moha is one of the roots of evil, in the Buddhist belief.
For Buddhists, well-being/non-well-being are states of being along a continuum. Though dis-ease suggests an absence of ease, Buddhists see it less as illness than as a consequence of ignorance, attachment to ego-self, and delusion, or, failing to see reality as it is.
It goes “Om Mani Padme Hum” which translates as “hail to the jewel in the lotus.” This is the mantra of the Compassion of Buddha, and it is said to calm fears, soothe concerns, and even mend broken hearts. I picked it because it's easy and it's not religious.
Skilful actions that lead to good karmic outcomes are based upon motives of generosity; compassion, kindness and sympathy, and clear mindfulness or wisdom. The opposite motives of greed, aversion (hatred) and delusion, when acted upon, lead to bad karmic results.
Crying doesn't break the precepts so a Buddhist can cry if a Buddhist want. For some people crying is really helpful, for some it isn't.
Anger (along with its cousin, frustration) is the single emotion most destructive to happiness. While anger often feels justified, Brown argues that it clouds anything you might want to communicate, distracts from the issue at hand, and doesn't resolve anything to your satisfaction.
In Buddhism, forgiveness is not presented as a moral commandment. Instead, it is a way to end suffering. It is a way to bring dignity and harmony to our life. So forgiveness is a crucial step to having peace of mind.
Buddhism transforms guilt at the heart by explaining that mistakes are the necessary fuel to grow and develop, but we should keep our eyes focused on the future. You can chant specifically about whatever guilt you may be feeling and continue becoming the person you've always wanted to be.
Buddhism teaches us to embrace all emotions at the same level, no matter how we perceive that emotion. The concept of causes and conditions reminds us that there will be difficulty and loss. And when there is difficulty and loss, it is appropriate to be sad. When sorrow arises, go with it.
The four devils are (1) the hindrance of the five components,*6 (2) the hindrance of earthly desires, (3) the hindrance of death, and (4) the hindrance of the devil king.
The Three Powerful Enemies
These are: 1) arrogant lay people; (2) arrogant priests; and (3) arrogant false sages who conspire with secular authorities to persecute the sutra's votaries. The common thread among these “three powerful enemies” is arrogance—their belief that they are better than others.