“Whatever you need, I want you to know you can tell me.” “If you feel like texting your ex, you can text me instead.” “I believe in the person you've been, the person you are, and the person you're becoming.” “Your feelings are valid.”
If you just want to apologize and make peace, a text exchange might be sufficient, especially if you think seeing each other face to face again might be too hard or too confusing. But if you want to discuss the possibility of getting back together, that's probably a conversation best had in person.
Text to Send Someone Who You've Been Casually Seeing
"Hey [Insert Name]. I realized that I'm not really feeling up to getting to know a new person right now. It has been nice talking to you, but I need to take a step back. I appreciate you understanding and wish you the best in the future."
You shouldn't text her right after the breakup.
The amount of time you'll both need to process the breakup is subjective, but anybody should take at least a few days to gather their thoughts before having a productive conversation with an ex.
You must be honest and upfront about your opinions and if they can't respect your preferences, then there's no reason why you shouldn't be sending them a goodbye text for last. If it's closure they need, then these texts are the best way to end all conversations with your ex.
I'm finally going to get off this roller coaster. I am truly sorry for the pain that this breakup will cause you. I wish you the best of luck, regardless of what happens. While goodbyes are inevitable, expressing gratitude for the relationship you both shared is also important.
“Your place is so deep down in my heart that it bleeds inside to wave goodbye to you. You may not be before my sight anymore but you will always dwell in my heart!” “It feels like fate has just robbed me of the most precious thing in my life. I feel sad but I still hope to see you once again.
For an amicable breakup: around 30 days.
Roughly 4 weeks of time alone should be enough to get back into the normal rhythm of the single life. It might feel messy and strange at first, but after 30 days you may find yourself feeling much better. While 30 days is a good rule of thumb, everybody is different.
In this case, the trend is one where people essentially disappear from a developing flirtation or relationship. To “ghost” is to stop responding to messages and to go radio silent without warning. ( Tribune Content Agency photo) PUBLISHED: December 20, 2021 at 1:40 p.m. | UPDATED: December 20, 2021 at 6:40 p.m.
What to say: “I've so enjoyed getting to know you. Because I respect you so much, I'd rather be honest. I'm not feeling a romantic connection. I really like you and would even be interested in being friends, but would never want to send the wrong signals, so please tell me if that is something you are interested in.
Instead of ghosting, try saying: “I'm super grateful that our paths crossed. I feel that we have amazing energy together but I see us flourishing as friends rather than as partners. If you're open to it, I'd love for us to continue as friends but I respect and understand if that's not something you want.”
Because the truth is, during no contact with your ex, they will start to miss you no matter what. What they do with that feeling is dependent on their personality. If you were dating an incredibly stubborn person, it might take months before your ex gives in and reaches out.
Allow yourself to feel the sense of loss.
There are very real psychological reasons for the painful feelings that can come with a big separation. Allowing and accepting these feelings can be a great help in eventually moving beyond them. Don't try to ignore or fight feeling wounded or hurt after breakup.
One effective approach is the 'No-Contact Rule' for returning to your Ex. This strategy refers to entirely cutting off your communication, detaching yourself from that toxic member of your life and moving on from your ex following the breakup. Usually, the no-contact period must extend for at least 30-60 days.
But first, you have to get through the hardest part: the first week. No, you are not going to move on from your heartbreak in a week. But that is about the time it takes for the initial shock to wear off. This time can be very healing, or very damaging, depending on how you handle it.