Gaslighters/Narcissists: Masters of the Compliment-Insult, or "Complisult." Stephanie Sarkis. Senior Contributor.
Negging is a form of emotional manipulation whereby someone insults you with a backhanded compliment to undermine your self-esteem and make you vulnerable to them, in which you crave for their approval.
An unsult is a backhanded compliment, i.e., an insult packaged as a compliment.
“Negging” is giving backhanded compliments or comments toward another person (usually a female ). Certain tell-tale signs can help you recognize this emotional manipulation and respond appropriately. Emotional manipulation, or “negging,” can be so subtle at first that you don't see it for what it is.
Noun. complisult (plural complisults) A backhanded compliment.
Negging is the practice of giving backhanded compliments and generally making comments that express indifference toward another person (usually a woman) in an attempt to seduce that person.
Gaslighters/narcissists can never fully compliment someone unless there is an insult tied to it. In broad terms, it's sometimes known as a "backhanded compliment." An example would be, "I like your dress, it almost fits you." The compliment-insult, or complisult, first sets you up, trusting the person ever so slightly.
As opposed to real praise, flattery is insincere and almost always has an ulterior motive. The Old English root word of flatter is flater, which originally meant "to stroke with the hand or caress." When you stroke someone's ego to get what you want, you're using flattery.
Sycophancy is insincere flattery given to gain advantage from a superior. A user of sycophancy is referred to as a sycophant or a “yes-man.” Alternative phrases are often used such as: apple-polishing. ass/arse kissing.
pseudo-compliment (plural pseudo-compliments) A statement that sounds like a compliment, but really is not.
So what is a double-sided compliment? A double sided compliment, is giving the girl a vague compliment, and then adding to it a DETAILED sentence that will translate as: “but there is room for improvement “ or. “but I have seen better” without, of course actually using those words.
They give backhanded compliments.
Narcissists are always looking for ways to make themselves feel superior to others, and one way they do this is through backhanded compliments. They will use language carefully so that what they are saying sounds positive at first but is then turned into an insult.
Negging is a form of emotional manipulation whereby someone insults you with a backhanded compliment to undermine your self-esteem and make you vulnerable to them, in which you crave for their approval.
Examples of indirect verbal insults are jokes, ironic comments, backhanded compliments, mimicry, and false fascination.
Flattery is a type of manipulation. Under-confident people often use it to feel more powerful and to win approval. Passive-aggressive people use it to get their own way. It's widely used by people who want to get into the good books of others, or to help them achieve their own goals.
Definitions of obsequious. adjective. attempting to win favor from influential people by flattery. synonyms: bootlicking, fawning, sycophantic, toadyish insincere.
A sycophant is a person who tries to win favor from wealthy or influential people by flattering them. Also known as brown-nosers, teacher's pets or suck-ups.
According to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), the biggest factor in determining that a compliment is harassment is when the comment was unwelcome, which makes it verbal harassment.
Praise isn't always bad, but it can become manipulative when it has an ulterior motive to influence student behavior versus expressing genuine heartfelt feelings. Manipulative praise can hinder a learner's ability to reach their fullest potential.
“People have trouble accepting compliments for a number of reasons. Sometimes, it's tied to social anxiety. It can also be caused by feelings of low self-esteem, or by going through life without experiencing positive feelings of gratitude,” explains Lisa Schuman, a New York–based social worker.
If someone is constantly giving you compliments, flattering you, and being oh so nice and or so sweet, they probably are too good to be true. People often demonstrate this behavior to hook you in only to disappoint you or manipulate you later.
Narcissists also gaslight or practice master manipulation, weakening and destabilizing their victims; finally, they utilize positive and negative emotions or moments to trick others. When a narcissist can't control you, they'll likely feel threatened, react with anger, and they might even start threatening you.
These tactics seek to extract gratitude or submission. Backhanded compliments may be given just for the joy of the sting. If backhanded compliments contain an element of aggression, they raise questions about the necessity and adequacy of apologies.