When you're focusing your energy into giving 60% into your relationship and only expecting 40% back, that's when you've developed a healthy and successful relationship. This is my new golden rule.
So I recently discovered the 777 Rule for Healthy Marriages. Every 7 Days go on a date. Every 7 Weeks go on an overnight getaway. And Every 7 Months go on a week vacation.
But can the law of attraction be boiled down to a formula? The 80/20 relationship theory states that you can only get about 80% of your wants and needs from a healthy relationship, while the remaining 20% you need to provide for yourself.
According to relationship experts, one option is to divide the time you spend with your partner into 70/30. This means that, ideally, you should spend 70% of your time together and thirty percent of your time apart. During the time apart, you do you.
Stop searching for the “perfect” relationship.
However, keep the 80/20 rule in mind: as long as you find someone who meets around 80% of your needs, then you can do the other 20% by yourself. This will broaden your horizons and can help you find a good match for you.
It's a simple concept that can help you achieve success in both your personal and professional life. Here's how it works: 33% of your time should be spent with mentors (people that challenge you), 33% with your peers (those on the same level as you), and 33% with people who you can mentor and guide.
When you break this idea down mathematically, it goes something like this: You're going to like about 85% of the other person's personality, perspectives, characteristics, tendencies and behaviours. There will be about 15% of that person's ways of being that, if given your druthers, you would leave behind.
The 5-5-5 method is simple, according to Clarke. When a disagreement comes up, each partner will take 5 minutes to speak while the other simply listens, and then they use the final five minutes to talk it through.
It turns out there is a pretty striking solution to increase your odds. The magic figure turns out to be 37 percent. To have the highest chance of picking the very best suitor, you should date and reject the first 37 percent of your total group of lifetime suitors.
According to relationship researcher John Gottman, the magic ratio is 5 to 1. What does this mean? This means that for every one negative feeling or interaction between partners, there must be five positive feelings or interactions. Stable and happy couples share more positive feelings and actions than negative ones.
Our golden rule for couples is: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” Instead of treating our partner as we would like to be treated, we need to treat them as they want to be treated. This is harder than it seems, for at least three reasons.
You see, most people think a good relationship is a 50/50 proposition. If, however, both partners instead focus on giving 60% and taking just 40%, the relationship has an overwhelming chance of being successful. Think of this as the “golden rule” of relationships. You get out what you put in.
The 2-2-2 Rule involves going on a date night every two weeks, spending a weekend away every two months and taking a week-long vacation away every two years. The idea behind it is that prioritizing and planning to spend time together strengthens your relationship.
Enter the 2-2-2 rule: Try and swing a date night every two weeks, a weekend away every two months and a week away every two years.
Here's how the 777 Rule works: every seven days you go on a date, every seven weeks you go away for the night and every seven months the two of you head off on a romantic holiday. It might sound a tad prescriptive, and an à deux holiday almost twice a year could be one too many, but nevertheless we get the point.
A relationship age gap bigger than 10 years often comes with its own set of issues. “While there are always exceptions to rules, a good rule to remember is that dating someone more than 10 years older will present challenges now or later that add to the preexisting challenges any relationship has,” he says.
Interestingly, the 100th day is equally important to lovebirds in modern-day Korea. When a couple starts dating, they are obliged to count down until the 100th day since they got together. Couples usually celebrate the big day by exchanging gifts.
The idea is straightforward but effective. It entails giving 100% to relationships without anticipating anything in return, as represented by the zero. People frequently approach relationships with a 50/50 mindset. They expect acquaintances, friends, or coworkers to match their level of effort.
A 50/50 split means that each person gives the exact same amount of themselves—fully. Partners base their giving on sameness and equality rather than the needs of the relationship. In couples therapy, I tell couples that their relationship is the primary client.
1. Respect Each Other. The first rule to keeping a strong, romantic relationship is to treat your loved one with respect. You have to respect your partner's time, heart, character, and, of course, his or her trust.
Partners are expected to remain together at the top of the Escalator until death. The Escalator is the standard by which most people gauge whether a developing intimate relationship is significant, “serious,” good, healthy, committed or worth pursuing or continuing.
You like 90% of your partner's habits but that last 10% gets on your first and last nerve.
Rule 20. We were all created in His image, and yet we were each created different and unique. No two people are alike. No hearts beat to the same rhythm.
11. Appreciate the good things in your partner: No matter how simple or routine the task may be, appreciate your partner and thank them for everything. It shows that you respect and value them, both of which are important for a long-lasting relationship.
Doing a 180 basically means doing the opposite of what you have been doing, or what your spouse thinks you have been doing.