First & foremost, intelligence. Unique intelligence. Not simply an ability to rattle off facts, but the capacity to think deeply with an open mind. I most definitely consider myself sapiosexual.
Decisiveness is a turn-on for INFPs. Making decisions isn't an INFP's strength. Sometimes it's because they usually spend a lot of time analyzing different options and exploring all the possibilities in order to come up with a conclusion that would make sense for everyone involved.
Exploring connections, ideas, possibilities, and solutions is inspiring to INFPs. They love being able to jump from idea to idea to see unusual and random opportunities. The spontaneity of discussion, the lack of boundaries, and the creativity involved in brainstorming is all very stimulating to them!
Shallow conversations, relationships, and activities turn INFPs off because they see them as a waste of time. People who focus more on appearances or material possessions than on substance and meaning are very unappealing to INFPs.
Who are INFPs attracted to? The three personality types that INFPs are attracted to are ENFJ, INFJ, and ESFJ. Since INFPs value creativity, willingness to help, and exploring the world together, they often choose partners with extroverted feeling (Fe) function.
INFP — The Unrealistic Present Focused Idealist
The INFP is known as the fantastical idealist, and for good reason. We prefer our vivid dreams and fantasies to reality most of the time, and reality doesn't even come close to all the things we can imagine in our minds.
However, if INFPs can't escape the shallow plane quickly, they will lose interest in the relationship (even though they may continue being friendly to that person — we hate being rude).
Prefacing an insult or critique by saying “don't take this personally” will only make INFPs feel belittled and irritated. INFPs are more than happy to get constructive criticism, but it needs to be done in a way that isn't patronizing. Zen habits has an amazing article on how to give constructive criticism kindly.
As Intuitive Feelers, they're fascinated by human nature and wish to understand you at a deep, emotional level. So, if an INFP really likes you, they'll go out of their way to talk to you and engage in a meaningful conversation. It's their way of telling you that they care and want to know you better.
When INFPs have plenty of time and space to reflect, they're much more likely to feel energized and motivated. Contemplating complex, philosophical challenges and thinking abstractly may also excite and energize INFPs. They tend to enjoy considering big ideas and finding a new way to look at things.
INFPs are a lot like ISFJs and INFJs when it comes to feeling comfortable before flirting. They like to cyber stalk their love interests, but can be somewhat shy with them in person until communication has opened up a bit. You'll find that INFPs make this open communication flow happen rather quickly.
People with INFP preferences aren't known for dating around. Instead, they tend to choose a partner based on mutual trust and shared values. Because they're always looking to the future, they often see the potential for long-term partnership in their relationships.
They are not afraid of commitment. INFPs are known for their idealism and strong values, which means that they hold on to something more than you can imagine. How to make an INFP fall in love: Be clear with your desire to commit; appreciate their expression of love and reciprocate according to their love language.
INFPs are complex characters that often find themselves misunderstood. It's a feeling they know all too well, which is why their phobia is Ambiguphobia – the fear of being misunderstood.
#1 – INFPs HATE Rigidity
For the INFP, personal freedom, control, and autonomy is an essential part of happiness. Rules that seem poorly thought-out, structures that constrain their ability to imagine, and judgmental statements can make them feel furious inside.
Popular hobbies for INFPs include poetry, creative writing, music, photography, theater, and visual art.
INFPs are loyal to the people and causes they care about. If they love you, they'll be quick to defend you (even if you're not there to defend yourself). They'll stand up for your character and beliefs, even when it's not popular to do so.
INFPs may seem like feelers in disguise. They may not exude emotion and enthusiasm all the time, but they care deeply and intensely. They may not open up to most people about how they feel, what they feel, or what impacts them, but they know and that's what matters to them.
INFJs are a fierce personality type defined by their idealism, achievement, perfectionism, and sensitivity. These introverts are hopeless romantics who tend to fall in love easily, but they also struggle to make the first move, flirt and show love once they're in a relationship.
INFPs ranked as having low dominance according to the CPI™ tool. These individuals are very independent in nature, and value autonomy and personal freedom. They dislike imposing their will on others and believe that everyone has a right to their own individual ethics and beliefs.
As partners, they are most likely hand-holders and snugglers, using physical closeness as a love language. About 83% of them agree that understanding their partner's physical needs is essential for a healthy relationship. They will likely make a very conscientious effort to make sure that those needs are met.
INFPs can struggle when it comes to dating. We are complex individuals we rarely meet people with whom we connect in a meaningful way. We need a lot of alone time and meeting new people can be draining for us. Plus, we value intense, deep connections with a select number of people.
ENFPs and INFPs tend to have really close, trusting bonds. Because these types share the same cognitive functions, they tend to innately “get” each other without as much trouble as many other type pairings.