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“The deepest desire of every human heart is to be known and to be loved,” Father Joe Campbell said in a Feast of St. Joseph the Worker homily Saturday. “This desire reaches its fullness in the desire to be known by God Himself.”
Once we have food, water and shelter we must feel safety, belonging and mattering. Without these three essential keys a person cannot get in their Smart State—they cannot perform, innovate, feel emotionally engaged, agree, move forward.
Buddha said very clearly that humans have five main desires: food, sleep, sex, money, fame. As we grow these five desires all become stronger.
In the end, the researchers identified 16 basic desires that we all share: acceptance, curiosity, eating, family, honor, idealism, independence, order, physical activity, power, romance, saving, social contact, status, tranquility and vengeance.
Human beings are born with eight primal needs—needs that are programmed by DNA into the subconscious—and are essential for survival. These eight primal needs are acceptance, connectedness, contentment, freedom, gratification, guardianship, prestige, and survival.
We all have needs, not just for basic survival, but 6 profound needs that must be fulfilled for a life of quality. The needs are: Love/Connection, Variety, Significance, Certainty, Growth, and Contribution. The first four needs are necessary for survival and a successful life.
We must have food, water, air, and shelter to survive. If any one of these basic needs is not met, then humans cannot survive.
Human beings have four fundamental, biological drives: acquiring, bonding, learning, defending.
Human wants are constant and infinite, but the resources to satisfy them are finite. The resources cannot exceed the amount of human and natural resources available. We produce things that we know people want, as long as we have the resources to make them.
The Seven Desires of Every Heart explores the common desires God gives you—to be heard, affirmed, blessed, safe, touched, chosen, and included.
We are motivated to seek food, water, and sex, but our behavior is also influenced by social approval, acceptance, the need to achieve, and the motivation to take or to avoid risks, to name a few (Morsella, Bargh, & Gollwitzer, 2009).
Wants are things that a person would like to have but are not needed for survival. A want may include a toy, expensive shoes, or the most recent electronics. Both needs and wants must be purchased with money. Sometimes people confuse their wants and needs and spend too much of their money on things they want.
According to SDT there are three psychological needs (autonomy, competence, relatedness) that are universally important for psychological wellbeing and autonomous motivation.
According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, the five basic needs are physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization.
Whether we're striving for a new job, more meaningful relationships, or personal enlightenment, we need to actively want something more in order to live well. In fact, neuroscience shows that the act of seeking itself, rather than the goals we realize, is key to satisfaction.
The hero instinct is a man's desire to protect his loved ones and feel needed. Relationship specialist James Bauer coined the term in his book His Secret Obsession. Bauer claims that all men have a biological drive to earn your love in order to feel in love with you. Men want to feel that you appreciate and need them.
Desires that are natural such as the desire for food when hungry or the desire for water when thirsty. And there are desires born of our opinion: we will be happy if we have so much money, such and such position, so many friends, so much sex, and so on.
Human nature is a desire to enjoy, and the ego is the intention to enjoy at others' expense. Our desire to enjoy is divided into individual, social and spiritual desires: · Individual desires — for food, sex, family and shelter.
Taken seriously | 'My place' | Something to believe in | Connect | Be useful | Belong | More | Control | Something to happen | Love | So what? Social researcher Hugh Mackay has identified ten social desires that drive us.
HAPPINESS
In survey after survey on what people want out of life, “happiness” consistently ranks as the number one popular “want”.