Have you ever wondered what constitutes a bad kiss? Whilst bad breath, a darting tongue and a wet sloppy kiss are rated as the biggest kissing turn-offs according to science, it might also be your smell, taste or even your pheromones that's causing the problem.
You get too intense too quickly
If you're launching yourself at your partner, expecting an intense make-out session right away, you're probably going to be labeled a bad kisser, said sex expert Antonia Hall. Make sure you lead with your lips and keep the tongue action to a minimum, at least at first.
Let her know you're coming from a place of concern and wanting to make a good thing (the relationship aside from kissing/sex) better. Let her know that what is happening is preventing you from enjoying her kisses—and you so want to enjoy her kisses! Also, ask her explicitly what, specifically, she finds pleasurable.
First, keep your lips soft and slightly opened, in a gently inviting and receptive way. Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing.
After some serious digging, the answer: yes and no.
While there are things you can do to improve someone's ability and make their kissing a little more your style, there isn't much you can do if they're not willing to change.
When they start mauling your mouth, pull away slowly, count for a beat and give them a single, tender, kiss on the lips. It wouldn't hurt to say “I love being kissed really gently” or “I like going slow”. It might feel awkward, but most bad kissers really are crying out for a little instruction.
FOR 99.9% of women, bad kissing is a deal-breaker. A very fast deal-breaker. A woman will give you one pass for nervousness. If the second kissing experience is poor, that's it.
People usually consider a kiss sloppy when it leaves saliva on your face, especially outside of your lips. If you or your significant other has to wipe their face or has drool on it, the kiss is probably too sloppy.
Good kissers are soft but passionate. They practice good hygiene, know how to move their lips and tongue to make the kiss feel passionate.
*Show him the way. Initiate by teasing him with intimate kissing techniques when he least expects, since once his mouth starts moving too much, it's going to be tricky to tame him. Instead, sensuously nibble or gently suck on his lip, and give him a tender surface lip kiss.
Very often, incompatibility in kissing heralds an incompatibility in the bedroom but, in addition, some people have an inability to be sensually – or even appropriately – tactile. Some have poor proprioception, which can make love-making more difficult.
It's also possible that kissing you could put your girlfriend in physical discomfort. She might be prone to chapped lips, or you might have stubble that chafes. Or maybe she just doesn't like the way you kiss — excessive spit and slobber, or too much of a tight-lipped, dry technique.
If it gets to this, just be light-hearted, and focus on the positives, without putting the pressure on them – for example, say you really like how things are going but you don't feel like you have the same kissing style, and ask if you can work together on that.
Move your lips towards him slowly, closing your eyes at the last second. You need to be able to see so that you can aim for his lips, but you don't want to keep your eyes open while you kiss, so close them right before your lips lock. Keep your eyes closed during the whole kiss.
Pucker up: How to deal with a bad kisser
If this is a deal breaker for you and the bad kissing has changed the quality of your connection, you don't need to defend your choices, nor do you need to feel guilt. You can simply let the person know that, unfortunately, you don't feel a connection and go your separate ways.
Some believe that kissing with tongue is a natural evolutionary progression that aids in mate choice. Others, citing cultures where kissing with tongue is not only absent but looked down upon, believe making out is a specific learned behavior that's gained popularity due to media consumption and globalization.
15 or 10 seconds is a good guideline to keep. You want to make sure that it's as long as your partner wants to do it. Because we can't read everyone's mind, the longer it is, the more you risk her/him resisting it. Therefore, try to keep it short because it's better to have your partner request for more than less.
Smiling while smooching might be an indication he's not only happy to be kissing you right now, but that he's been wanting to kiss you for some time, and is overcome with elation and a sense of victory. First kisses are usually nerve-wracking, and if he smiles during yours, it's because his joy outweighs his anxiety.
He compliments you a lot
According to studies, after kissing a woman, a man sees them as more attractive. That is if the kiss went well. So, if he compliments you a lot after kissing you, that is a good sign that he enjoyed the kiss.
07/8French kiss
When a man kisses you with their tongue, it means that they are head over heels for you. There is nothing that excites them anymore except for you. A French kiss is a sign of attraction and desire and if he kisses you with so much passion, he sure wants you.