Your first kiss might feel like a high-pressure situation — a moment you'll think a lot about before it happens. But that doesn't mean it should be something you need to worry about. The most important thing is to make sure that both you and the person you're kissing are happy and comfortable.
When you kiss someone, your body releases happy hormones. A rush of dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin hits your system the moment your lips lock. With this positive cocktail and a heart-fluttering kiss, you'll feel like you're on cloud nine! Lips are one of your body's most sensually sensitive areas.
A good first kiss validates the attraction between two people and confirms that sexual chemistry exists. After a good first kiss, I should know whether I want to sleep with you. Not every first kiss, though, is a great kiss. They can be awkward, especially if the moment is not right or even forced.
Is that normal? Yeah, it means that you are not physically attracted to the person. You might be emotionally or romantically attracted to them, which can often be confused for physical attraction. To feel the “sparks” of a kiss, you must be emotionally, physically and romantically attracted to a person.
This is pretty normal. Kissing can be boring without other types of stimulation. And yet for others, it will be electrifying. This is just part of your sexuality, and you must accept that.
It's normal to not feel a spark when you kiss someone for the first time. Sometimes two people just don't have that chemistry and it's nothing personal. If you like the guy and he makes you feel good in other ways, there's no reason to stop seeing him just because you don't feel a spark when you kiss.
Most people are quite happy remaining dry during a kiss. Your tongue should never be long, wet and limp; this person's face should never have a wet upper lip, wet lower lip, wet cheek or wet chin. If he or she has to pull away and wipe of his or her face, it's definitely not hot.
A long kiss releases dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, feel-good chemicals that will make him smile. A single smile produces endorphins, another hormone that lifts his mood. Endorphins also create a “feedback loop” that will make him smile over and over.
But when it comes to our body's reaction to kissing someone for the first time, there's definitely a lot of chemistry going on – particularly in our saliva.
"Your biological stress system is actually activated when you have your first kiss," Seiter says. "But, this doesn't mean you're stressed out. You'll experience increased heart rate, sweating, or butterflies in your stomach; a physiological excitement response."
You experience an adrenaline rush: When you kiss someone for the first time, your body will release a burst of adrenaline (the fight-or-flight chemical) which increases your heart rate, boosts your energy levels and gets the blood flowing.
Touch them gently to initiate physical contact.
Then, move your hand to their hair or face and gently touch them for a few seconds. If you feel ready, gently brush the hair away from their face, then rest your hand on their shoulder or cup their cheek. You might also try putting your arm around their shoulders.
So, 10 seconds is how short the ideal kiss is, according to the survey.
That first passionate kiss can cause some people to experience a sensation of weak-in-the-knees due to high levels of adrenaline, which are also spiking in the brain.
Before you get ready for the kiss, you need to make sure to take it slow and to be gentle. If you're too aggressive or rough, your partner will get the wrong message, and the kiss will feel too forced. Here are some things to avoid before you go in for your first kiss: French kissing.
"Men like sloppier kisses with more open mouth and that suggests to me that they are unconsciously trying to transfer testosterone to trigger the sex drive in women," said Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Jersey. Kissing can certainly open the door to sex, Fisher said.
Use quick, sweeping motions and make sure that your tongue is constantly moving. Letting your tongue fall limp in your partner's mouth is not sexy. This is where it can really get slobbery. Make sure to swallow often to avoid allowing too much saliva to build up in your mouth and spill over into your partner's mouth.
Key Takeaways. The instant attraction and that ”spark” you feel with someone is a tell-tale sign of chemistry between you two. If you find yourself making intense eye contact, flirting, and always smiling at someone, you probably have good chemistry with them.
Three dates is a good rule of thumb.
That's a pretty fair amount of time together. If you're not feeling any sense of chemistry or attachment, it's OK to give up. If you want to keep trying, go for it, but make sure to be careful of his feelings too.