They may give their favorites more playing time than other children. Often, coaches prefer players who show up on time, try their hardest and score during games. They sometimes favor players whose personalities mesh with their own: Communicating with these children feels easy.
A good coach is positive, enthusiastic, supportive, trusting, focused, goal-oriented, knowledgeable, observant, respectful, patient and a clear communicator.
Coaches play their favorites because they are committed, coachable, punctual and supportive of their teams success. Having favorites sets a precedent for the rest of the team on how you expect them to behave and interact. All players can become favorites if they learn, embrace and consistently display these behaviors.
The coach's role is to facilitate learning, offer advice, and analyze the individual to identify weaknesses and strengths.
All successful coaches are looking for those players who have the skill and desire to attack and to defend. Every good defender in possession knows how to switch from defending to attacking play.
A successful coach is a motivator with a positive attitude and enthusiasm for the sport and the athletes. A coach who can motivate is able to generate the desire to excel in their athletes. When motivating a player, a good coach stresses trying to reach performance goals, not outcome goals.
A great coach will serve many roles: technical supporter, motivator, leader, psychologist, and maybe most importantly, as a role model for the athlete to follow in the competition arena as well as out. Well developed coaches will understand their various roles as it pertains to their overall program.
Great coaches embody attitudes, values, and mind-sets that make them stand out from others. These “ways of being” flow through their coaching conversations. Many people do not regularly experience these traits in others and therefore have trouble adopting them. When you have a conversation with a great coach, you know!
Athletes respect coaches who do what they say they will do, even if that means a negative outcome for them personally. If you tell a player they will start in the next game if they complete specific tasks in practice, and they do it, then that player should be in the starting lineup on game day.
In summary, effective coaching is about focusing on the coachee, building a trusting relationship through demonstrating attention to their needs, seeking to understand them rather than judge, listening to what they say, and encouraging them to come up with ideas on how to move forward.
ENFJ: the Protagonist
As natural born leaders, ENFJs make excellent instructors and coaches. They are also excellent communicators who can see a person's potential and encourage them to build on their talents. A Protagonist's main goal is to assist their loved ones in becoming the finest version of themselves.
The 4 C's have been inspired by Jean Cote and Wade Gilbert's research into effective sports coaching where they found coaches play a role in influencing their players Competence, Confidence, Characterand Connectedness – The 4 C's.
Genuine relationships between athletes and coaches generate more trust, better communication and a winning attitude. An open line of communication helps everyone be more honest with one another, which leads to stronger training, athletic progress and personal growth.
Master coaches are impeccable with their energy, their words, and their tone. They have a keen awareness of their effect on the people around them, and they are mindful about their impact and the way they show up.
Coaches need to be able to show empathy and be good at building relationships, including building rapport. Good coaches also have strong communication skills. For more about developing communication skills in general, see our pages: Communication Skills, and Developing Effective Communication Skills.
On a possession basis basketball is the most complex sport, followed by football and baseball.
College coaches want athlete's who have impeccable work ethic. You must have a strong work ethic and prove it through documentation and references. Recording your workouts and practices with details of what you accomplished is an excellent way to show that you have put in the hours athletically.
Solid Work Ethic
Show college coaches that you are motivated and resilient. While working hard on the field or court is important, it's critical to bring this drive into the classroom. Having good grades and test scores is something that is often overlooked, but plays a big role in being a well-rounded recruit.