INTP (“The Logician”)
In the world of personality theory, the INTP and INFJ pairing has been nicknamed “The Golden Pair” because these two types can be highly compatible. Personally, I have only known one INTP (that I'm aware of). This person played a significant role in my life.
INFJs are most likely to marry someone who shares their values and vision for the future, regardless of their personality type. INFJs are more likely to marry someone who values emotional depth and intimacy and is dedicated to personal growth and development.
Technically it is supposed to be an ENTP or ENFP. I would also consider INFP having seen the two interact. Since INFJ has introverted intuition as their dominant function they are most compatible with other intuitives: NT and NF. Idealists were 73% satisfied with Idealists (NF).
Falling in love doesn't happen fast for INFJs. They tend to be misunderstood as cold and unapproachable all their lives. This makes them afraid that they won't find someone who will truly understand the essence of their being and accept them the way they are.
Loyalty is not only a quality that INFJs are attracted to, but also something they expect to find in a future partner. Once again, it all comes down to trust. For an INFJ, loyalty means more than 'not cheating'. It means someone who supports you and makes an effort to truly understand you.
When I surveyed INFJs about their flirting styles, more than anything, they expressed a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone they liked. They will be more emotionally open, express more of their deeper longings, and become more vulnerable with you if they like you.
One of these iconic match-ups is the INTP and INFJ, a combination that has been touted as ultra-compatible and bound for happiness. Some go so far as to describe this combination as the "Golden Pair," destined to be both close friends and a romance of the ages.
INFJs and ENFPs also make for great friends. Their inverted cognitive functions complement each other extremely well, which can often lead to INFJs suggesting solutions that someone with an ENFP personality would never think of on their own, and vice versa.
So, high standards aren't the only reason INFJs might still be single. This next one has to do with their introverted nature. Frankly, a lot of us INFJs wait for other people to make the first move.
True vulnerability may be challenging at first, so INFJs need partners who can be patient until trust is built in the relationship. The feelings of those closest to them, including romantic partners, are like an open book to INFJs and they tend to assume that others can see into their hearts just as easily.
INFJs' only true enemy is themselves, or more specifically, their inner critic. However, some personality types may be difficult for INFJs to get along with including: ESTJs: They are often seen as being too blunt, dominant, and insensitive for INFJs.
You attract an INFJ by listening to them; without trying to come up with solutions. Although advice can be very helpful at times, sometimes, listening intently really helps more. LIstening helps validate the emotions of people and show how attentive and aware you are. But also that you're present.
A shared strength of intuition and a love of communicating their theories with others means that the INFJs will greatly enjoy doing what they love to do together with each other.
The rarest personality type for women
Just 1% of women type as INTJ and ENTJ respectively. Among women, INFJ is only the third rarest personality type with approximately 2% of women categorized as INFJ. Both INTJ women and ENTJ women are extremely rare in the general population.
They need a partner with depth.
While INFJs still enjoy worldly things, they don't put all their worth into their worldly possessions. They don't want a partner who is overly obsessed with labels, money, and status. Shallow and materialistic people aren't likely to stay in an INFJ's good graces for long.
INFP is the type most commonly mistaken for INFJ, and they use Ne as their co-pilot process. If Signs 1 and 5 are both sound true for you there's a very good chance you're an INFP.
Best Match for an INFJ
The best matches for an INFJ are the ENFP and the ENTP personality types. Both the ENFP and the ENTP types openly give support to those around them and to those who need affirmation.
ENFJs are one of the most loving personality types. They are warm, compassionate, and always looking out for the people around them. At So Syncd, we call ENFJs 'So Giving' because they are always giving of themselves, whether it's their time, energy, or resources.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
In a word—No. First of all—to fall in love requires relationship—and I as a woman would not pursue getting to know a man ever unless he started conversing with me. Then there has to be attraction—which for an INFJ is not physical.
The INFJ is most compatible with both the ENFJ and the ENTP. These two personality types can use their extroversion to bring out the best-hidden qualities of the INFJ.