On the skills side, talking on the phone is harder for you than talking in person because your attention wanders and you don't have visual feedback. Talking on the phone (and texting even more so) is a “narrower” form of communication than talking in person, so your concerns make sense.
ADHDers may be anxious or scared of what the person on the other end of the phone may say or how they say it. Emotional sensitivity can amplify these feelings to the point where they may avoid the phone call altogether.
Some find small talk boring, while others find it mystifying or even terrifying. People with ADHD may struggle with recognizing how to start a conversation. Or they may dive right into sharing personal information after a quick chat about the weather. Anyone with ADHD can learn the skill of making chit-chat.
People with ADHD tend to be forgetful, impulsive, and/or inattentive, which can complicate how well we adhere to the etiquette of texting. In other words, we're more likely to ghost our friends, but completely by accident.
Phone anxiety – or telephobia – is the fear and avoidance of phone conversations and it's common among those with social anxiety disorder. Having a hatred of your phone doesn't necessarily mean you have phone anxiety, although the two can be related.
Most people avoid talking on the phone due to social anxiety. Social anxiety may be exacerbated due to the uncertainty and ambiguity of telephone conversations.
Introverts often rely on body language to help them respond to communication. While a lot can be observed through a person's tone of voice, the lack of body language makes phone calls particularly difficult.
With ADHD, the brain doesn't correctly attend to and interpret things like facial expression, tone of voice, and other non-verbal communication messages. Therefore, someone with ADHD misreads a lot of interpersonal interactions, doesn't respond correctly, and comes off as rude.
As children with ADHD work to organize their thoughts when speaking, it is common for them to use more word fillers and produce more word or sound repetitions. This often leads to misunderstandings from others and impatience from both the child speaking and those who are listening and trying to understand them.
People with ADHD have a very strong moral compass: They hate discrimination, dishonesty, fake people and unfair situations. They love justice, fairness, honesty, sincerity, equality and the truth. Most people say that they value those things.
Many people with ADHD tend to talk faster than others, too, which can lead to them inadvertently cutting off others while speaking.
Executive functions have other roles which affect how someone thinks. In people with ADHD, these executive dysfunctions impact thinking in numerous ways. People with ADHD don't really think faster than people without it, but it can sometimes seem like they do.
If you find yourself struggling to stay away from your phone or laptop, and somehow, despite urgent deadlines, you're still scrolling through Facebook, it's entirely possible that your restlessness or impulsivity is ADHD related.
An ADHD brain ? processes thoughts differently.
So, when we're in the middle of a conflict, it can be hard to keep calm and think straight. We can feel extreme guilt, anger, sadness, or anxiety, and it can be hard to manage everything we're feeling.
For starters, not everyone with the hyperactive side of ADHD is loud and talkative. While talking non-stop is part of ADHD for some people, there are many other ways hyperactivity can express itself.
Adults with ADHD frequently think being sociable with others is an all-or-nothing part of their lives. Either they're oversharing and talking too much, or they're withdrawn and staying home alone. Hyperactivity in adults is often expressed as being overly talkative and boisterous.
Similarly, people with ADHD can also experience 'meltdowns' more commonly than others, which is where emotions build up so extremely that someone acts out, often crying, angering, laughing, yelling and moving all at once, driven by many different emotions at once – this essentially resembles a child tantrum and can ...
ADHD makes us more sensitive to criticism. Often, our first instinct is to respond defensively or angrily to outside comments that feel like disapproval. But adults with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) should know that doing so could sacrifice learning opportunities and the respect of others.
When we feel like we are constantly unable to do tasks asked of us, it can lead to feelings of anxiety and worthlessness, which can lead to a meltdown, too. Meltdowns may occur when deep breaths and time-outs aren't working and angry outbursts are imminent ? .
Performance Anxiety
This type of anxiety is one of the most common, as it affects up to 20% of Americans. People who dread or avoid phone calls due to performance anxiety do so because of their fears of a negative evaluation, being judged, or ultimately being rejected by others.
Less Time-Consuming. One of the main reasons why people are more inclined to texting is that it gives them a kind of freedom that calling doesn't. It allows them to answer at the most convenient time for them, not to mention the fact that it gives them time to think about their answers.
I understand why a lot of introverts love texting. After all, it's a form of communication based on writing, and for a lot of introverts, it's easier to convey their thoughts through writing than speaking. I'm like that, too: I feel like I can express myself better through writing than speaking.