Sometimes it has nothing to do with the relationship or you. He is just stressed – it could be work or personal issues with his family, friends or health. Sometimes, pulling away is a defence mechanism. His past experiences can make him afraid of going through heartache again.
He fears commitment or loves his freedom more
Perhaps he feels the relationship has moved forward too fast. Or, he probably feels he is still young and does not want to settle down. Some men love the thrill of the chase and the new bonding as they find it more enticing, but they fear serious long-term relationships.
Whether a man is in love with you or not – there will likely come a time when you feel him pulling away. Pulling away is simply what masculine men have to do sometimes. (And in their mind, they usually do not even realize they're pulling away!)
It's no wonder men often have difficulty identifying what they are feeling, other than anger. They can become defensive and pull away when emotion is being expressed to them unless they know how to speak the language of emotion. Emotional withdrawal has become their go-to response.
Guys mainly act distant when they are uncertain of their feelings or yours. Please don't give up when you notice a sudden change in his demeanor. Instead, make him trust you more by assuring him of your love. Let him know you value the relationship and hope you build it together.
Whatever the reason, let him withdraw. It's his way of saying that his feelings aren't the same as yours and he wants to see other people. Don't waste your time by chasing him or making him chase you after he pulls away.
Three months is probably the most frequent time that I see people breaking up, deciding they don't want to step it up to a more serious stage, which does include agreeing to be in a committed relationship, saying “I love you,” and more of a groove.
Space is especially important if he pulls away early in the relationship when you haven't been dating long. Don't chase him or contact him at all; this can send the message that you're overly attached to him. Chasing after him may end up pushing him away even more, whereas distance can help the heart grow fonder.
It could be a personality disorder, some type of depression, or even bipolar mood swings. When guys self-medicate with drugs or alcohol, they become even more closed off and distant. If you really care about him, try talking to him about it and see if you can get an honest answer out of him.
He may have detected that you're interested in more than just hooking up, and he's trying to back away slowly. His sudden lack of interest could signal he wants to end things, or that he wants to keep you at a distance. Either way, if he's not interested in more than sex, and you are, it's probably not a good match.
When a guy runs hot and cold on you, it's highly likely that he's insecure. He is blowing hot when he's feeling strong emotions about you. After the first few months of dating, he begins to panic. He gets anxious that you don't like him as much as he does.
One of the clearest signs someone is pushing you away is that they ask to go on a break in the relationship. More often than not, asking to go on a break is their subtle way of telling you that they would rather have nothing to do with the relationship.
The best way to make a guy miss you is to pull away. Refrain from texting or calling him for the smallest things. If you reach out to him constantly, he does not have any chance to miss you. Instead, give your special person a reason and some time to miss you.
Ignoring a guy is one of the surefire ways to get his attention, as he would at most times try to win your attention back. However, ignoring alone doesn't put you at the forefront of his thoughts and make you desirable.
One of the obvious reasons why a guy may ignore or act disinterested in you is because he feels you are too good for him. He lacks the confidence to approach you or share his feelings with you, fearing you might reject him. He feels that sharing his true feelings might ruin your friendship with him.
Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
He might be busy, he might not like texting, or he might not be into you. Dry texting is incredibly frustrating, but try to be patient for the first couple of short texts or long response times. If he starts the conversation up again or starts sending more detailed messages, he was probably just busy.
Men take an average of 88 days (about three months) to tell their partner they love them, whereas women take an average of 134 days (four and a half months), according to a 2013 survey conducted by YouGov and eHarmony.
Being disrespectful
When someone does not respect a man, it can put them off. Not being respectful is on the list of turn-offs for a guy. Many men want to date people who respect them and make them feel good. If you don't respect a man, you might not be in his good books.
Men Need Love and Affection
In plain language: Men often feel most loved by the women in their lives when their partners hug them, kiss them, smile at them, and explicitly offer gratitude, praise, and words of affection. Men also feel loved and connected through sexuality, often to a greater degree than women do.