Confrontation isn't fun for anyone, introvert or extrovert, but it can be especially draining for us “quiet ones.” It puts us under the spotlight and forces us to articulate our feelings in tense (and sometimes awkward) conversations. That's why, as an introvert, I've spent much of my life avoiding conflict.
Introverts Are Nearly Three Times More Likely to Avoid Conflict Than Extraverts.
Introverted types need time and space. This is a defining quality of Introversion: taking time to process thoughts. Without that time, Introverts can't be their authentic selves because they can't express what they really think. And, in a conflict situation, that sort of time often isn't available.
Talk about how you feel, but allow equal time for the other person to be honest about their feelings, too. Listen to what they say with an open heart and mind. Don't just wait for them to finish so that you can speak — be an active listener (which we introverts excel at anyway).
Previous research using the Thomas-Kilmann conflict model has shown that introverts are more likely than extraverts to use an 'avoiding' style, trying to avoid conflict, postponing or sidestepping an issue rather than dealing with it directly.
Angry Introverts are in a sensitive state, and they can easily become overstimulated by too much social contact. Interestingly, Introverts won't usually respond to their anger by leaving altogether.
Unfortunately, introverts don't exactly thrive on talking about themselves, so they often come off as rude upon first meeting them. But the truth is, introverts just get incredibly nervous meeting new people, and don't exactly know what to say at all times.
Introverts, on the other hand, tend to use ego-defense mechanisms such as isolation, intellectualization, and rumination, which per- mit maximal awareness to those same stimuli. In addition, females tend to use repression (and related mechanisms) in greater degree than do males.
An introvert hangover includes social fatigue, mental and physical exhaustion, and burnout felt by introverts after they have spent too much time socializing with others. This feeling occurs because introverts are drained by interactions with others and need time alone to recharge.
They may feel awkward or out of place in large groups. They may also find small talk to be difficult or uncomfortable. Additionally, introverts require alone time to rejuvenate their social energy and may be less interested in attending social events. This can make it challenging to meet new people and make friends.
Introverts have to constantly wage a battle within themselves- what is socially considered right or correct, and what they actually think is right. With the amount of pressure that exists, it is more likely for an introvert to submit to socially accepted norms of behavior.
Introverts tend to prefer to think things through, mull over arguments, the rights, the wrongs and then proceed carefully (perhaps that's the Acetlyl Choline). If each side sees the other's style as a wrong reaction, the argument can continue and fester.
Introverts are sometimes looked down upon for being shy and timid, however, one should not be ashamed of being an introvert. In fact, being comfortable with self and enjoying being alone can be looked at as a strength.
What struggles have introverts had? Introverts can't usually start a conversation but they really want to have conversation. Struggle to handle situations that depends on extroverts. Introverts find it difficult to really have fun even at the crowded party.. they just need some people to enjoy with, not a party.
First and foremost, introverts seek out and enjoy opportunities for reflection and solitude; they think better by themselves. They are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they prefer to observe first and act later.
It is generally stated that about 70 percent of all highly sensitive people are introverts, but that as much as 30 percent are extroverts. So introversion and high sensitivity are not necessarily always linked. The sensitivity to stimuli is slightly different for introverts than for HSPs.
Introverts can experience a bit of anxiety when they need to speak in social situations. Introducing themselves, talking to a stranger or public speaking are mentally draining for them. These are the examples of a definitely stressful situation out of their comfort zone.
Being an introvert doesn't affect how friendly you may be. Some people may think that introverts are unfriendly because they don't tend to have large groups of friends, and they may reflect on situations quietly rather than joining in on conversations at gatherings. Introverts can't be leaders.
Being alone gives us time to think and do tasks without needing to worry about others' needs. Introverts love to spend time alone to recharge and think.
Wait it out. Additionally, when an Introvert ignores you, they may be angry. Although they might be mad about something that's overshadowing their life, they'll soon recharge and refresh enough to pay attention to their relationships. If they are angry with you, however, they'll address the issue when they're ready.
Studies have found that introverts get more easily distracted than their extroverted counterparts. Because of this, they might be annoyed when someone steps into their office for a quick chat. They also get annoyed by interruptions when they speak. Extroverts are often guilty of interrupting others while talking.
Weaknesses: social anxiety, shyness, navigating a predominantly extroverted world.
#8 Learn mind-body relaxation techniques and find time to practice them. Introverts have a natural affinity for practices like meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, self-hypnosis, and other techniques that put the mind and body in a more deeply relaxed state.