People with ADHD, however, often have abnormally short time horizons — a phenomenon Barkley calls “future myopia.” It's difficult for them to plan for the future because they don't see the future as clearly as do their peers.
People who have ADHD commonly struggle with the following social issues: Difficulty taking initiative to make plans. Not taking steps to maintain contact with friends they don't otherwise see regularly. Forgetfulness or canceling plans last-minute (and thus being perceived as “flaky”)
When confronted with a task, people with ADHD may struggle to make decisions about how to begin and how to monitor their progress. They might leave the task momentarily only to get distracted by something else. All of these factors mean that tasks keep getting put off, sometimes until the last minute.
One of the many ADHD traits that gets misread as a sign of rudeness is the habit of interrupting people in conversations, usually with a thought that seems completely unrelated to the topic. When someone gets cut off, they often think it means you weren't really listening or you don't care what they have to say.
Dopamine levels in the brain are positively correlated with our level of interest in a task. If a task is inherently boring to someone with ADHD, dopamine levels are so low that their brain is unable to “activate” to do the task. They can't pay attention even if they want to. They are in a state of hypofocus.
Differences in emotions in people with ADHD can lead to 'shutdowns', where someone is so overwhelmed with emotions that they space out, may find it hard to speak or move and may struggle to articulate what they are feeling until they can process their emotions.
Kids with ADHD often have behavior problems. They get angry quickly, throw tantrums, and refuse to do things they don't want to do. These kids aren't trying to be bad. The problem is that ADHD can make it hard for them to do things they find difficult or boring.
It is essential to realize that people with ADHD are generally emotionally sensitive and may have strong feelings of shame, preventing them from seeking the medical help they need. Aside from medications, allowing the person to process their emotions before a meltdown is a healthy way to help them cope with rejection.
As we've discussed, unfortunately, many people with ADHD tend to have a lack of empathy. This can be addressed, though, through identifying and communicating about each other's feelings. If you see a disconnect between ADHD and empathy in your child or in your spouse, don't give up hope.
If that felt like a personal call-out, you're not alone. It's a common ADHD experience that I call 'involuntary ghosting' - a phenomenon that describes the disappearing act that happens when ADHDers forget to respond to texts.
If you've officially become the “flaky” friend, it could also be a sign. Individuals with high-functioning ADHD may appear flaky or scattered periodically or always. If you are always running late, leaving things unfinished, or constantly multitasking, this could be why.
Is it hard to get out of bed when you have ADHD? The difficulty of getting out of bed in the morning is not a problem that only people with ADHD experience. However, it's quite common for adults with ADHD to find it challenging to get up in the morning.
If you're looking to break out of a shutdown state, consider activities that help you feel more energetic and excited about the task at hand. That can include gamifying tasks (like a “beat the clock” challenge with a timer) or an accountability buddy that keeps you engaged.
Whether you have ADHD or not, even good change creates stress. Change is the definition of moving out of one's comfort zone and it takes a lot of energy to react to the unknown. For people with ADHD, that discomfort is magnified. ADHD makes transitions much more challenging for people.
Do people with ADHD struggle with friendships? Why? Yes, they might have some struggles when it comes to starting and maintaining friendships. This is because many ADHD symptoms can affect our social interactions.
[3] When it comes to interacting with those around them, ADHD-ers “were generally described as being sociable, caring, sensitive to the moods and feelings of others as well as loyal, noble and altruistic”.
Intense emotions and hyperfocus
Kids with ADHD often feel emotions more deeply than other kids do, and love is no exception. When teens with ADHD fall in love, the good — and bad — feelings that come with it can be even more intense and more disruptive.
In an older study from 2006, researchers noted that adults with childhood ADHD had an increased risk of receiving certain personality disorders in later life. These include antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.
Many ADHD symptoms and traits can affect a person's ability to resolve conflicts. For instance, being unable to manage their emotions well can get in the way of toning down a confrontation. Being easily distracted, talking too fast or interrupting a conversation, and forgetfulness can also cause conflicts.
Untreated ADHD in adults can lead to mental health disorders like anxiety and depression. This is because ADHD symptoms can lead to focus, concentration, and impulsivity problems. When these problems are not managed effectively, they can lead to feelings of frustration, irritability, and low self-esteem.
One type of ADHD masking — known as mirroring — involves intentionally or unintentionally mimicking the speech, movements, or behaviors of someone else. While ADHD mirroring and body doubling may seem similar at first glance, you can work alongside a body double without imitating them in any way.
With ADHD, the brain doesn't correctly attend to and interpret things like facial expression, tone of voice, and other non-verbal communication messages. Therefore, someone with ADHD misreads a lot of interpersonal interactions, doesn't respond correctly, and comes off as rude.
“The hardest thing about ADHD is that it's 'invisible' to outsiders. It's not like other conditions that people can clearly see. People just assume that we are not being good parents and that our child is a brat, when they don't have an idea how exhausted we truly are.” —Sara C.
Frequent careless mistakes (such as when filling in forms) Decreased ability to concentrate at work. Avoidance of activities that require perseverance. Mislaying or losing everyday objects, always looking for something (such as keys)