You need to find out whether your child has undergone some kind of trauma (bullying, rape) or is abusing drugs or alcohol. This behavior could also indicate the beginning of a serious mental health issue such as depression, schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, all which become more common in the late teens and early 20s.
At 14, your son will be testing their friendships and, most likely, their first real sexual feelings. They will very likely be dealing with peer pressure to try alcohol, tobacco and drugs. It's a busy time in their life: They're absorbed in social media, texting and instant messaging, and probably gaming.
If you child is between 12 and 14 years old:
Their attention span is between 25 and 40 minutes. After this, it's time to refocus unless the activity is highly engaging.
You talk too much: If you child is more introverted, they may need time to be quiet, time alone or time to process what you're asking. If your child is more extroverted, they may need more time to talk. You're judgmental: Your child may not talk to you because they are afraid of your response.
Great news: there's no right or wrong number of times per day (or week, month or year) that you should talk to your mother. That magic number is, well, whatever works for the two of you. “Focus on the intention and value of the relationship and less about the shoulds and shouldn'ts,” Dr. Galloway said.
Give your child a clear message when he gives you the silent treatment. You should say: “Not responding to me is not going to solve your problem. When you're ready to talk about it, I'll be here.”
If your kid refuses to call you mom or dad, don't worry. It's probably just a passing phase. “Often kids will go back to calling the parent mom or dad once the novelty has worn off,” Smith says. “Not being called mom or dad can make you feel invisible.
According to the adult children surveyed, the most common reasons they estranged from their parents are: Emotional abuse. Conflicting expectations regarding family roles. Differences in values.
The reasons as to why your child is refusing visitation with your co-parent are unique to your situation, but some causes might include: Your child is unhappy with the rules they must follow at your co-parent's house. Your co-parent lives far away from their friends, school, activities, and other things they enjoy.
There are several things that can cause speech delays, such as hearing loss, physical problems in the roof of the mouth, learning disabilities, or certain diagnosable conditions like autism spectrum disorder or cerebral palsy.
Feeling disconnected from your child is a usual part of parenting. Although it leaves you questioning your abilities, with some time and effort, you can work on restoring your connection. Excess screen time, neglecting your own needs, and replacing quality time with material things can contribute to the disconnect.
Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.
Definition of parental alienation. Parental alienation is a disturbance in which a child rejects a parent without good cause. The rejection can range from mild to severe. In mild alienation, a child may share a parent's litany of complaints about the other parent but warms to that parent when they are together.
A child who completely rejects a parent is usually doing so because of pressure being placed upon them which is largely unseen because the parent who is causing it is either high functioning and able to disguise it, or is being assisted to do so by a legal and mental health system which does not understand alienation ...
Kids purposely ignore you because it gives them a sense of power and control. It makes them feel big, and pretending not to hear you makes them feel like they're flexing their muscles. What I recommend is that you figure out what's important to you as a parent and what's important to your child.
Whether in a parent-child relationship or a romantic bond, silent treatment is thought to be the most harmless way of punishing another person. It does not involve physical or verbal abuse and so is considered to be a non-violent form of punishment.