In fact, based on our research you can expect the average ex to begin missing you anywhere between 2.5 to 5.2 months after a breakup assuming you put forth signals that you are “moving on from them.”
If your ex is a classic codependent who relies on you for emotional support, there's a good chance they will miss you for a long time after your breakup. Whereas if they're mature and emotionally stable, they probably won't.
Today I'm going to show you the eight definitive signs that a man is missing you during a no contact rule. Usually this period of time lasts anywhere between 21-45 days. Of course, for many of our clients are left wondering how they can tell if it is even working.
Because the truth is, during no contact with your ex, they will start to miss you no matter what. What they do with that feeling is dependent on their personality. If you were dating an incredibly stubborn person, it might take months before your ex gives in and reaches out.
When your ex sees that you're so much better than you ever were when you were with them, this causes a shift in their emotions. Maybe you've been working out more, or you've been succeeding in your career. When they see that you're in a much better place than they are, they start to miss you.
Now is the time to focus on yourself and become the best version of yourself. Take up new hobbies, read books, exercise and try new things. Not only will this make you feel better about yourself, but it will also make your ex regret losing you.
Use the no contact rule
Does no contact make him miss you? Yes! One of the best ways to use silence after a breakup is to cut off all means of communication. That includes going silent on social media after a breakup.
Someone can miss you but not actually want to get back together. They may think you're great, claim to be crazy about you, or miss the things that ensured they got their needs met, but they don't miss you that much.
It is possible that your ex is still thinking about you from time to time, even if you no longer have contact. If you were together for a long time, or if the relationship took place during an important part of your life, separating the memories of an ex from the general memories can be difficult.
When he realizes his feelings, he might want to get back together. This realization usually happens several weeks or even months after the breakup. He'll recognize how much he needs you in his life or how he can't stand the thought of you with someone else.
For some the “missing emotion” can be fleeting. For others, all consuming. In all though, yes, there's a high likelihood that the dumper will miss the ex at some point.
The fastest time that it took for an ex to reach out first without being prompted was 8 days. On the other hand, the longest time was 75 days! That's a BIG range. But when you average it all out, it comes out to 38 days for an ex to reach out first, without being prompted.
Exes may return in some cases. Since couples break up for various reasons, the circumstances of a breakup may impact the potential for reconnection. A recent study showed that 44% of Americans have gotten back together with one of their exes after breaking up with them.
The good news was that yes, regret is completely normal after a breakup. The bad news is that sometimes you'll never get confirmation if an ex is regretting their decision to break up with you.
Do exes come back weeks, months, or even years after the end of their relationships? The short answer is: Most of them (around 70%) don't but it depends. It depends on a lot of things. By the time you're done reading this article, you'll have a decent idea about the chances of your ex coming back.
Why does my ex never come back? Your ex doesn't come back because you may have hurt them badly. They don't see a future with you and are over you already. They might also be convinced that the breakup was necessary and have no reason to get back together with you.
By staying silent, you're telling your ex that you're strong, resilient, and independent. You're relying on yourself — and no one else — for your own happiness.
Here's why ignoring your ex is powerful: it gives you space to explore your own emotions and heal from the pain of heartbreak. Naming, acknowledging, and accepting your feelings. Noticing and naming emotions gives us a chance to step back and make a choice about what we want to do with them.
Sometimes silence means that the other person is highly impacted by what is going on. For example, if your ex was just cool and casual with this breakup and life in general, it wouldn't be a big deal for them to contact you. But your ex is possibly experiencing some difficulty.