Modern research goes one step farther. One 1999 study defined two central tenets of extraversion: enjoying interpersonal relationships while simultaneously also practicing leadership, assertiveness, and impulsivity. By extension, introverts typically prefer more submissive social roles, and tend to be less impulsive.
There are a lot of submissive introverts, this is in large part due to the fact that they never develop their assertiveness. Engaging in social situations is mentally draining for an introvert.
Yes, they are the kind of people who tend to get possessive. They will absolutely adore you and will keep you to themselves. Just a mere sight of you with someone else can upset them to the core.
Research has proven that extroverts end up having more sex, and the difference is huge, than introverts. From not being able to talk to your crush to hesitating to take the next step in a relationship, being an introvert sucks. But if you are on the other side of social awkwardness, the world could be your oyster!
For example, can you see an introvert as a dominant rather than an extroverted? People of all stripes and inclinations enjoy being dominant or submissive (or anything in between). So yes there are shy, quiet, introverted dominants and outgoing and assertive submissives.
Submissive personality traits:
Submissives are concerned with facts rather than emotion, and won't spend time getting to know you on a personal level. In conversation, submissives are serious, direct, and formal and often like to be dealt with at arm's length.
Although there are times when introverts enjoy the rush of physical affection, other times, when they are drained or tired, touch can feel invasive and overstimulating. On the other hand, extroverts gain energy when they are close to others, so physical contact with their partner is a pick-me-up.
This means talking in terms of the other person's interests and listening to them when they talk about themselves. This shows you're interested in their values, attitudes, experiences, and beliefs. You're interested in who they are as a person, which can be a real turn-on, especially to a fellow introvert or HSP.
Introverts are loyal and devoted friends.
People are attracted to loyal and devoted people. While introverts may not always realize it, this is a trait most people find attractive in them. Their loyalty isn't just attractive to the recipients of that devotion, but to anyone who observes them.
“Introverts and extroverts are attracted to each other because of the differences,” says Ross. And, in some ways, this can work really well, like when the more introverted person feels like they need more social appointments on their calendar, or when the extroverted person is feeling overwhelmed by their commitments.
Because introverts are more private, they're inclined to cultivate a lifestyle that maximizes autonomy and self-sufficiency.
Most introverted people tend to have a small group of people they focus all their love and attention on, rather than spreading it across countless acquaintances. That means you're going to get a much higher proportion of our energy and attention (and therefore love) than with someone who's more of a social butterfly.
Introverts are generally more attuned to expressing love in nonverbal ways and don't tolerate sentimentality. They also need more time to express their affection, so patience is very important at the beginning of the relationship.
Being an introvert can be extremely attractive to some people. Introversion can seem mysterious and intriguing, especially if it pairs with qualities such as kindness or being a caring person. If you are an introvert, someone may be attracted to the fact that you appear humble and down to earth.
Depending on each individual introvert's willingness to speak on the phone, taking your call or calling you of their own accord can also be a sign of affection. It's a sign that they actually enjoy speaking with you when they can, even if the phone isn't preferable to a face-to-face conversation.
Quality Over Quantity Is Attractive
Introverts tend to have fewer but closer friends. And because they do not seek external social reward, they are not easily led astray or to contravene their core values. This is one of the most attractive qualities of a trustable friend.
Introverts love alone time and need it to recharge. If an introvert is not looking for a relationship and prefers to be single, it's important for others to respect that.
But when they start developing deep feelings for you, they can't help but show you their romantic side. Introverts express their affection in profound ways and are found to be greater romantics than extroverts because their love involves a greater intensity.
Their introverted qualities of loyalty, depth, and taciturn mystery are what draw women in and create blushing fandoms worldwide. Those inner qualities shine through their relaxed and confident body language and their vibe. For more on this, go to our flagship post: “Why & How Introverted Men Are So Damn Attractive.”
It Comes Down To Personal Preference. Ultimately, it depends entirely on the man in question. Studies show that introverted or shy men are likely to be attracted to both shy and outgoing women, while extroverted men may have a preference for outgoing women.
They actually don't flirt
The first clue to finding out if an introvert is flirting with you is that they won't flirt with you in an obvious way. They'll try to make a good conversation while you're around them and make sure that you have a good time, but that's it.
Your perfectionistic introvert tendencies get in the way.
We're dreamers — and often idealists — placing high expectations on ourselves and those around us. Our focus is often so sharp and our energy is so limited that if we choose to commit to another person, it better be good.
And researchers have found 70% of introverts also are highly sensitive people. HSPs for short.