“It's the same with sex and the classic chase - many men find the chase exciting and it strikes their ego to feel they're the one who is finally going to get her attention - and into bed. Add to this the fact that men are very goal focused and an elusive goal can seem all that much more interesting.
In a nutshell, it's all about him. The guy who likes the chase is the guy who cares about feeding his ego more than getting to know you. The guy who insists on the chase but isn't curious about the real you is the guy who is emotionally unavailable.
most men like women chasing us. The idea a woman is chasing us gives us an ego boost. It makes us feel better about ourselves. All people like to feel like we are needed, being chased by a woman makes us feel like that.
If the chase was the main attraction for him and he got what he wanted, he will lose interest. Not all men do this, but the one that wants attention or is looking for a fling will lose interest immediately after you become more intimate.
Chasing someone is a thrill… one that you probably don't get to revel in when you're in a secure relationship. Scientifically, having a crush and falling for someone releases feel-good hormones like dopamine and adrenaline. Part of the chase is a chase for those brain chemicals, to feel those euphoric feelings again.
Part of what makes a man chase a woman is in knowing he at least has a chance to win her over. Bringing out your flirty, feminine sides are fun ways to show a man you're interested in him by making him feel desired and giving him space to pursue you.
It can take a week or even a month before it's clear that someone isn't interested and you aren't making progress. It can also take an hour. Even for someone who is interested, it can still take a long time for them to decide to be with you, even if they like you too.
The chase helps men realize how important the girl is
Like women, men are critical of their potential partners and will easily form opinions based on how “easy to get” someone is. So if you're too easy to get, he may wonder if he deserves someone better.
This is because men tend to pull away after sex. During sex, oxytocin increases, which has the effect of lowering testosterone. When a man's testosterone levels decrease, he feels a great need to pull away and may even lose interest for a while. As his testosterone levels rebuild, his interest returns.
He may have detected that you're interested in more than just hooking up, and he's trying to back away slowly. His sudden lack of interest could signal he wants to end things, or that he wants to keep you at a distance. Either way, if he's not interested in more than sex, and you are, it's probably not a good match.
The chase is when a man subconsciously forms his initial emotional attachment for you. But if you chase him (or you're too nice, too accommodating, too available or you have sex with him too soon), you take over his role as the suitor and he will lose his interest in you and his motivation for the chase.
The average time for men to fall in love is 88 days, while those same feelings of true love take women 134 days. Another dating site, Elite Singles, did a poll in 2017 and found that 61 per cent of women believe in love at first sight, while 72 per cent of men do. These surveys focused on heterosexual relationships.
Guys mainly act distant when they are uncertain of their feelings or yours. Please don't give up when you notice a sudden change in his demeanor. Instead, make him trust you more by assuring him of your love. Let him know you value the relationship and hope you build it together.
Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
Allowing your partner the freedom to have time alone, process their emotions, and pursue their personal interests can help to build a stronger sense of trust and intimacy in the relationship over time. In many cases, giving your partner space will benefit your personal growth as well.
The chaser surrenders to the universe and develops a relationship with the universe which brings her back to finding the missing peace within her/him. When the chaser surrenders to the universe and lets the runner go, She (feminine energy) feels lonely and hurt and starts to trust the universe bit by bit.
According to a large 2022 study, men tend to say “I love you” more quickly than women. It takes men an average of 108 days (about 4 months) to confess love and women an average of around 123 days (about 4 months).