Money is one, if not the biggest sources of narcissistic supply (i.e. validation, admiration, reassurance, power, and control) that narcissists have access to. Because of this, it is very common for a narcissist to steal from you through financial abuse.
Narcissists seek power over others to feel better about themselves, and money is a tool they use to manipulate and control.
Narcissists fake whatever future they know you want so their own needs will be met in the present. Then they string you along with empty promises they never plan on keeping just so you'll stick around and keep giving them what they want.
In the first place, narcissists believe that they are above the law. As a result, their unethical behavior may sometimes include lying, stealing, or embezzling money while justifying it fully. Additionally, many narcissists have trouble controlling their impulses and delaying gratification.
Hiding assets.
They go to great pains to hide marital assets, sometimes setting up secret accounts, “lending” money to friends, or stashing cash in safe-deposit boxes. Because they're so grandiose, they don't believe they'll ever get caught.
Controlling access to funds: The narcissist may control the access to joint bank accounts, credit cards, or other financial resources, leaving their partner without access to the money they need to live.
It is all part of the entitlement they feel. So yes, they are stingy. And this is not even the worst of it- when they lie, and cheat, and break hearts in a cruel way, and treat people abysmally, it is much worse. That is why everyone should know the basics about narcissism.
Yes, most narcissists are relatively stingy and protective over their money. They don't willingly hand over what they have. However, this greed extends beyond self-preservation. Because narcissists lack empathy for others, they don't necessarily understand the benefits of sharing their resources.
If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you may find that you're sacrificing things for the sake of their needs on a regular basis, but they refuse to do the same for you. It also means they'll do almost anything to others in order to meet their own needs.
It is easy to be tricked by the covert narcissist because unlike the classic narcissist that many of us have learned to recognize with their charm, flash, attention-seeking ostentatious presentation, the covert narcissist is stealth. These people tend to be more introverted and subtle, so they can be easy to miss.
A person with narcissistic personality or narcissistic traits frequently uses manipulation tactics to influence and control others. Common examples of this include gaslighting, triangulation, love bombing, and many others.
It often involves extravagant confessions of love, romantic gestures, fake remorse, and empty promises of change. A narcissist will use baiting to keep their narcissistic supply in place. In the case of hoovering, their intention is not just to provoke you, but also to have you back in their life.
Embezzling Cash
Narcissists may take out cash advances on credit card accounts or other lines of credit. They may spend it shortly thereafter, or sock it away into a secret bank account, or maybe stash it in a secret hiding spot somewhere in your home.
Narcissists are notorious for ruthlessly manipulating others to gain a strategic advantage over them. Yet they're exceptionally vulnerable to being duped themselves because of their powerful psychological defenses, which—if recognized—can be vigorously used against them.
“Some kinds of narcissists will come across as extremely needy. If there is always a huge problem or drama, everyone has to focus on them—pitying them, running to their rescue, and helping them clean up their messes,” says Ho.
Narcissistic rage is common for those with NPD as they grow increasingly angry with any display of vulnerability. This anger can be triggered when they are “called out,” their image has been damaged, or their shortcomings or wrongdoings are highlighted.
Narcissists are attracted to certain types of people. Rather than weak, vulnerable people, they tend to go for the strong-willed and talented. They are also attracted to people who reflect well on themselves.
Rejection, humiliation, and even the tiniest of defeats can shake them to their core. This leaves narcissists wholly focused on their image. They believe that how they are viewed by others, and how they view themselves, will shield them against realities of life that few of us like but most of us come to accept.
Rejection
Rejection causes major narcissistic injury and is one of the top 10 things narcissists fear the most. They can't handle it, even if it's a tiny slight. Remember, they have a sense of entitlement and pride themselves on being the ones who reject and discard their victims.