The majority of married men flirt to feed their desire of being wanted. Even though he's married, he wants confirmation that he's still attractive, not just within his married life. He wants and needs a boost to his self-esteem, ego, and confidence. It may be that he doesn't feel wanted or desired by his wife.
But couples need to know how to flirt, too. After studying 164 married people for a 2012 study, University of Kentucky researcher Brandi Frisby noted that most of them flirted — by playing "footsies" or whispering in their partner's ear, for example — as a means of maintaining and emphasizing intimacy.
While flirting isn't technically a bad thing, when you're married, it could be considered inappropriate if it breaches relationship boundaries and/or it's viewed as hurtful by your partner. By recognizing inappropriate flirting, you can determine if it's affecting your relationship.
In relationships, four types of intimacy are key: emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual. If you feel you fear intimacy of any type, or your loved one does, seeking the support of a therapist may help you.
Broadly speaking, intimacy means deeply knowing someone, while also feeling deeply known yourself. It is something humans crave, and though at times, it may seem more difficult for men to express it, that doesn't mean they don't need or want it.
Men prefer a woman who can stay calm and relaxed. Beauty is more than make-up and a fancy haircut. Men find women more attractive when they are neat and clean. Men find women who smell nice, who have clean hair and hydrated skin more attractive than a face perfectly covered in makeup.
Flirting crosses the line when the actions becomes covert or so emotionally connected that you pursue said behavior over furthering your committed relationship.
How can you tell if your husband is not attracted to you anymore?
Here's how to tell your partner is not sexually attracted to you: Your spouse or partner avoids going to bed with you at the same time. He avoids looking at you when you're naked. He no longer spontaneously touches you.
In general, cheating is acting behind your partner's back or against their expectations or mutual promises. In many cases, flirting is cheating when your partner doesn't approve or your actions can go against the relationship or your partner. If you're in a committed romantic relationship, you can choose love.
