Easy! You say “hey I'm wondering what you are looking for with me, a relationship?” Don't beat around the bush. Just be direct and ask exactly what you are thinking.
You can also start by asking her what she's looking for. Try something along the lines of: “I've been having a lot of fun and I'm just wondering what you're looking for out of this.” Let her know that you don't need an answer immediately, but that you'd like to talk about it before this goes too far.
If you're interested in being with her then yes you should definitely ask her. This is one of the most important questions to ask very early on. It's critical to know the other person's priorities to see if you match up so that if you don't you can both move on and not waste each other's time.
Don't ask someone “Hey, what are you looking for?” Go ahead and note what kind of relationship you're looking for in your bio — experts usually recommend doing that — but avoid asking about specific character traits. Men are more inclined to ask this question than women are, Golden says.
Avoid starting a conversation on Tinder with a lie (saying you're into something when you're not, exaggerating your height) or trying to act like someone you're not. Give a first impression that shows who you really are!
Out of all the apps, women on Tinder care most about a guy's photos, with 55% of women on Tinder saying that a guy's photos matter more than his bio. Women on Bumble care most about how a guy writes his profile, with 64% of women on Bumble saying that a guy's bio and prompts matter more than his photos.
"Hey. I'm really enjoying spending time and getting to know you over the past couple months. To manage expectations, I am looking for someone who is open to taking the relationship to the next level because this is what I want. Is this something you are looking for as well?
A lot of rude questions will feel like compliments, but asking someone about their physical appearance in any way is rude.
Keep it general; you don't have to say every detail
Keep it general. Say that you're looking for a long-term exclusive relationship that will eventually lead to marriage. If having kids is important to you, say that, too. But you don't have to say every detail you're looking for in your dream partner.
Men love women who are thoughtful, caring, loving, and kind. A woman who does little things for her man for no other reason other than that she loves him. A woman who makes him smile back whenever she smiles at him. A woman who radiates love and warmth from her heart.
“I want a girl who cares for me as much as I do for her. Doesn't hold grudges if we get in fights and works them out right away instead of being stubborn for weeks to come. Someone who will do random things to make me smile when I've have had a long day or a bad day.
Dating requires little commitment. You may agree to specific aspects of a date, such as a date, time, and place, but that's about it. A meaningful relationship requires commitment from both partners. Relationships with commitment include looking to the future and exploring where things may take you.
Try being more gentle, open-minded, and honest in your approach. Try something like, “I really like you and would love to know where you think this is going,” says DeAlto. “Make it a more open conversation.”
"My main tip is to keep it casual and keep it direct," Hartstein says. "Don't be afraid to ask." And, if they're avoidant, either gently push for an answer — or take their avoidance as the answer. If they can't have the conversation, then they're almost certainly not looking for anything serious.
Give her a compliment.
Mentioning how she looks right away might seem like you're coming on too strong, so talk about her personality or something you noticed in her profile. She'll probably be flattered that you care about more than her looks, so she'll want to reply and build a deeper connection.
When a man is honest and trustworthy, he instantly becomes more appealing and desirable to a woman. If he's dependable, truthful, genuine, and speaks from the heart, he's a guy who is worth pursuing, as people can take him at his word. "Trust and trustworthiness allow relationships to deepen," says Degges-White.