Intentional self-care is imperative for a Type 9 because it allows them to pursue their passions in life and truly experience growth. Getting in touch with their emotions, both positive and negative, can help Peacemakers better understand their needs and make more informed choices.
Deepest Fear: Nines fear being too needy and thus pushing people away. They cope with this fear by submitting to the desires and agendas of the people around them: being agreeable in order to be included.
In general, 8s, 9s, and 1s — the body type — tend to get angry when they see injustice, and when they feel like people are trying to control them, but this is expressed in different ways.
Recognize anger
As part of the Body/Instinctive triad in the Enneagram, Type 9s have a sensitive issue around anger. They subconsciously deny and under-express it, and it often comes as a surprise to Type 9s that they have unprocessed anger. They often don't recognize this.
Nine: A Six and Nine pairing is one of the most common couples. Both types are reliable and crave stability. Nines can also help Sixes be more optimistic and trusting of other people.
In Stress: Nines take on qualities of Sixes, becoming overcommitted, worried, rigid, and anxious. They may doubt themselves which makes decision-making even harder, and can become uncharacteristically reactive.
Type Nines commonly pair well with Ones, Twos.
Type Nines are known as the Peacemakers in the Enneagram. Reassuring and harmonious, Nines are supportive to a fault, their conflict-averse nature may cause them to minimize and simplify problems.
Type Fives don't pair as well with Nines
Both types tend to go into their imaginary worlds to stay safe, making it difficult for them to connect.
They become passive-aggressive.
Passive-aggressive behavior and “negative implementation” are classic tools Type 9s use to stand their ground and yet still avoid conflict. They may agree to do something they never intend to do.
Famous Type Nine leaders include: Queen Elizabeth II, Claude Monet, Abraham Lincoln, Dwight D. Eisenhower, Princess Grace of Monaco, Ronald Reagan, Audrey Hepburn, James Taylor, and Mister Rogers. Enneagram Type Nines are natural-born mediators, striving to bring others together in the purpose of unifying peace.
Easygoing, agreeable Nines crave a meaningful, harmonious connection with their partners. And the best way for them to build that is through quality time.
Many Nines are introverts, in truth. They need to be, to keep themselves insulated from a world where chaos is ever present. Even when they're social and active, a part of them are kept in reserve. They are likeable, steady, tolerant and optimistic, but don't ask a Nine about their real feelings.
Enneagram 9s in Romantic Relationships
First, it can be hard for them to get a partner. Type 9s tend to be wallflowers, and potential romantic prospects may be drawn to flashier, more gregarious types initially. However, once people get to know Type 9s, they're attracted to their calm, caring personalities.
Enneagram Nines are motivated by a need to be settled and in harmony with the world and, as a result, being accommodating and accepting will be important to them. They strive for a peaceful existence and appreciate stability, preferring to avoid conflict. At their best, Nines are experienced as self-aware and vibrant.
Unhealthy Enneagram 9
Unhealthy Enneagram 9s often seem to be emotionally blunt. They do not react as much as a normal person should, in social situations. They always seem aloof, as if their mind is not in the right place. They turn a blind eye to their own problems and ignore them.
Sixes are one of the most anxiety-prone types of the Enneagram and tend to overreact when under stress. Identifying what triggers an overreaction as well as finding space to process their thoughts in the aftermath of a crisis is crucial for their mental health and general well-being.
Enneagram Type 9 is called The Peacemaker. They are motivated by the need to keep the peace, connect with others, and avoid conflict. Generally, type nines are kind, gentle, reassuring, supportive, loyal, and nonjudgmental in relationships.
Type 9: The Peacemaker
Type 9s shine as leaders when they can maintain their serene nature while also engaging in and dealing with the reality of what the team is facing. At their best, they lead with a peaceful and grounded style.
Enneagram Type 9s might be the hardest to type in the Enneagram personality type system, but they're valuable personalities who sacrifice their own needs to help others feel comfortable.
Type Nine in Brief
They want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. They typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness.
While Fours are stereotypically known for being sad, and complaining about life a lot, Fours are quite a mixed bag. Some Fours appear to be very happy as they hide their sadness very well. Other Fours find it easier to hide their hurt with anger, and lash out at people.
Nines have a tendency to shut down and disconnect from the world when they are not healthy. They separate themselves from their internal motivation. A lot of times the term Sloth is related to laziness or physical inaction.
Type 9 Behavior at Unhealthy Levels of Maturity:
Distant and difficult to reach. Prone to mood swings. Passive-aggressive and cold. Apathetic and dissociative.