How do you forgive someone who hurts you emotionally?
Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you, recognize how those emotions affect your behavior, and work to release them. Choose to forgive the person who's offended you. Release the control and power that the offending person and situation have had in your life.
If forgiving someone guarantees that they're back in your life, and if that puts those around you (like your children or family) at risk. If that person pressures you to partake in negative behaviors, for example, drinking if you're sober.
Can you forgive someone and still want nothing to do with them?
Forgiveness doesn't require anything on the part of the one receiving our forgiveness. We may never see or interact with that person again, yet still be able to forgive them. This is because the ability to forgive is, in fact, given to us by God through the Holy Spirit.
Responsibility: Accept what has happened and show yourself compassion. Remorse: Use guilt and remorse as a gateway to positive behaviour change. Restoration: Make amends with whomever you're forgiving, even if it's yourself. Renewal: Learn from the experience and grow as a person.
Feeling angry can make us feel 'tough', and can be like an armour keeping away more hurt. But not forgiving someone leaves us replaying a painful situation in our mind until it erodes our sense of worth. This actually leave us more vulnerable in the long run.
The negative consequences of not forgiving has been documented in studies that show that it can lead to emotional pain of anger, hate, hurt, resentment, bitterness and so on and as a consequence can create health issues, affect relationships and stop us from experiencing the freedom that forgiveness enables.
Acknowledge the offense. Take responsibility for the offense, whether it was a physical or psychological harm, and confirm that your behavior was not acceptable. ...
Only one of three people in the world can fix you when you're dealing with the aftermath of a broken heart. Either someone new who has yet to break your heart, that someone who did break your heart, or you -- the one who had his or her heart broken. Each one of those three options has its benefits, but also tradeoffs.
Manipulation of any form, including gaslighting, is on the list of unforgivable things in a relationship. In this case of gaslighting, partners deny they're doing anything wrong and distort things so much that you question your reality. If you want specific examples, you must contact a therapist.
