If you're unsure of whether a hug is welcome, just ask. You don't have to make it weird—a simple, “Can I give you a hug?” will do. Sometimes a hug can change someone's day, and it only takes seconds. Hug your loved ones and friends more.
State your wishes. Be honest with her about what you want from the relationship. Tell her that you would like it if there was more kissing and hugging in your relationship. But also make it clear that you respect her and value her feelings, so you don't pressure her into doing something that makes her uncomfortable.
Being hugged uplifts our mood. If you are feeling isolated or are going through a rough time, a hug releases endorphins. Endorphins are the body's natural pain relievers. These neurotransmitters increase our feelings of pleasure.
Hug Etiquette
-Ask permission before hugging someone, unless you are already on intimate terms with the person.
According to Ms Ashwini, it is crucial that parents seek consent before hugging children EVERY SINGLE TIME, even when children have expressed they like being hugged in the past. In a parent-child relationship, there is a risk of a parent assuming that I know my child.
Ask them if they need a hug.
If your friend, family member or colleague looks very sad or has just received some bad news and you would like to comfort them, you could ask them if they would like a hug. If you are close to this person, they may appreciate the offer and take you up on it.
Be slow, gentle, and firm.
Pull her towards you and squeeze. Not too hard, or you'll hurt her. Slowly rub your hands up and down her back and rub your bodies together. Don't be afraid to explore with your hands, but make sure that she's into it.
People who are natural huggers and/or who feel friendly toward you will often prefer to greet you with a hug instead of a handshake. When someone wants to hug, they will approach you with their arms open and their torso facing you in preparation for the embrace.
As author and family therapist Virginia Satir once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth”.
Psychologists in London claim they have cracked the code on the ideal embrace, saying hugs should last between five and 10 seconds. According to researchers at Goldsmiths university, longer hugs were found to provide an immediate pleasure boost compared to shorter ones (lasting just one second).
One way to clue him in on the fact that you want a kiss is to look him deep in the eyes, slowly drop your gaze to his lips, and then move them back up to his eyes. If the guy catches on, this is his cue to kiss you. If not, then try again a little later.
Make eye contact and say, “Thanks.” Smile at him, and he may just move in for a kiss. Draw attention to your own lips. Gently run your fingers across your lips periodically to draw his attention in. You can also playfully bite your bottom lip or gently wet your lips with your tongue.
Simply draw out the moment. Shoot a brief glance at their lips, not longer than two seconds, and then make eye contact with them. Try to keep your mouth gently parted, receptive to a kiss, during this look. If they look at your lips too, that is a great sign.
Being averse to hugs can also result from trauma, experts believe. “These experiences are all stored in the body, and they interfere with experiencing pleasure from touch… When trauma is stored in implicit memory in the body, people don't like to be hugged or touched.
Hugs are a great way to express affection. It shows that you care about a person and that you support that person through good times and bad. However, you want to hug your crush or your lover differently than you hug a friend or family member.