First, keep your lips soft and slightly opened, in a gently inviting and receptive way. Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing.
Aim to deliver a quick, sweet kiss rather than using tongue or a lot of pressure. Then, move your head away from theirs. Using tongue may seem sloppy or extra awkward since you are new to kissing. When you kiss at a young age, this is all you need to worry about.
Put your hand on their face, neck, or arm, and move in for a light peck. After you do that, pull away slightly to look your partner in the eyes and give them a small smile. If they smile back, or if they at least look happy and comfortable, lean in and give them another kiss, if you'd like.
A good first kiss validates the attraction between two people and confirms that sexual chemistry exists. After a good first kiss, I should know whether I want to sleep with you. Not every first kiss, though, is a great kiss. They can be awkward, especially if the moment is not right or even forced.
First, keep your lips soft and slightly opened, in a gently inviting and receptive way. Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing.
In John Gottman's relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day.
Interestingly, this is largely agreed upon across generations. No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5.
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“It is age-appropriate for 10 year olds to be curious, but limits should be established for physical touch. Kissing and other behaviors are more developmentally appropriate behaviors for teenagers who are of dating age.”
If he's in a silly or happy mood, he's totally spellbound.
A long kiss releases dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, feel-good chemicals that will make him smile. A single smile produces endorphins, another hormone that lifts his mood. Endorphins also create a “feedback loop” that will make him smile over and over.
This doesn't mean you have to crush his lips with force. Just use enough pressure to show him how passionate you are with the kissing bit. Move your hand on the back of his head, play with his hair while you kiss him passionately. You can also occasionally nibble his lips with your teeth.
Lean in and lightly press your lips to your partner's. Line up your mouths so that your upper lip is between their lips and your bottom one is underneath theirs. You can also put their upper lip between yours if that feels more comfortable. Don't push too hard against their lips.
There is no need to give up kissing for the sake of your health and that of your loved ones. While disease-causing bugs can be transferred during a kiss, most won't cause disease and the risk of serious disease is very small.
SO ROMANTIC… when you kiss your partner passionately, not only do you exchange bacteria and mucus, you also impart some of your genetic code. No matter how fleeting the encounter, the DNA will hang around in their mouth for at least an hour.
A good kisser knows how to get in tune with what the other person is doing and stay in sync to their movements and vibe. So if you feel like you're well-suited to your kissing partner's style, then you're all set.
Whilst bad breath, a darting tongue and a wet sloppy kiss are rated as the biggest kissing turn-offs according to science, it might also be your smell, taste or even your pheromones that's causing the problem. Being a bad kisser can be a deal breaker, but kissing is more complicated than most people think.
It might also be comforting to know that, statistically, your situation isn't wildly uncommon. “It's true that by age 19, more teens have kissed someone than haven't, but it's completely normal either way,” says Eva Lefkowitz, a Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at the University of Connecticut.