If your boyfriend crosses your boundaries every time and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone. A relationship in which you repeatedly feel disrespected, bad about yourself, or can't be authentic is not a healthy relationship.
You always have to put your relationship with God above everything else, including your friendships. If a friendship is detracting from your walk with God rather than adding to it, it's time to end that friendship. As Jesus said in Matthew 5:30, “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.
Go to God in prayer and seek His guidance and help. Admit to Him that you are struggling to let go of someone you love. Ask Him to strengthen you to release them into His hands. Ask Him for courage to trust in His plan for your life.
Psalm 147:3
The Bible says the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and heals the brokenhearted. So, not only will God provide comfort as you move on from a past relationship, but He'll actually help you do it. God will help you heal from the wounds caused by the relationship and move forward in life and love.
As Christians, we do not have the option to let broken relationships lie and fester — we must work to repair them. Pray to God about it before taking action: Keep in mind that you can't fix things on your own — you need God's grace to intervene. Pray to Him about the situation, asking for wisdom, patience, and love.
1 Peter 4:8
However, love wins in the battle of evil, so in everything you do, act with love.
Often, when God is closing a door, but we are unwilling to let it go, it produces a lot of anxiety. We can't sleep, examine the potential consequences repeatedly, and have a short temper from all the stress. This level of irritation could be your instincts telling you that it is not safe to move forward.
If your boyfriend crosses your boundaries every time and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone. A relationship in which you repeatedly feel disrespected, bad about yourself, or can't be authentic is not a healthy relationship.
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
One possible reason you could be finding it so hard to move on from someone in your past is because you had sexual relations with this person. While it is true that two people bond themselves together in a sinful way when they have sex, it is a lie to think this bond cannot be broken through the cross of Christ.
Here is what the Scripture says: God is just. He will punish through everlasting destruction and those who are so punished will be shut out from the presence of the Lord, forever.
Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion forever.” Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”
"Let My People Go" is a phrase that originates in the Book of Exodus 5:1: And afterward Moses and Aaron went in, and told Pharaoh, Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, Let my people go, that they may hold a feast unto me in the wilderness.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” Psalm 34:18, NIV. With God's wisdom and direction, you can mend a broken friendship by at least two ways. (In a third case, the wise choice may be ending the friendship while loving the former friend through prayer.)
Paul tells us the reason we are to not strike back: “Leave room for God's wrath. For it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord.” So if your argument against this is “But then they'll get away with it!”, apparently that's not so. It's just that you don't get to decide and exact the punishment.
1 Corinthians 7:15 Amplified Bible (AMP)
But if the unbelieving partner leaves, let him leave. In such cases the [remaining] brother or sister is not [spiritually or morally] bound. But God has called us to peace.
A clear sign that God has sent someone your way is that they respect your wishes and desires. They don't impose their wants unto you and they ask about what you want rather than always desiring things to be done their way.
So, “Do not throw away your confidence, it will be richly rewarded.” (Hebrews 10:35) A closed door doesn't mean that it's over for you. Contrarily, it means that God is getting you ready for something bigger, better, and far greater than before.
Revelation 3:7-8 New International Version (NIV)
What he opens no one can shut, and what he shuts no one can open. I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an open door that no one can shut. I know that you have little strength, yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name.
When God closes doors, He's usually protecting or preparing us. A blocked opportunity can be a useful tool for teaching. God wants to mold us into His image, and He can use anything—including something we desire—to do so. Closed doors prevent mistakes.
'He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death' or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Bible Gateway 1 Corinthians 13 :: NIV.
We know that, now, nothing can separate us from the Father's love (Romans 8:38-39). Man's rejection is made so small in light of the truth that, through the gospel, we have God's eternal love and acceptance, unconditionally.