How do you reconcile with someone who doesn't want it?
Acknowledge any anger and resentment.
You should not pretend that these feelings do not exist. Tell the other person why you are angry or resentful. You should also allow the other person to express any anger he or she feels as well. It may help to write down your feelings before talking to the person.
Everyone's reconciliation story is different, but everyone can reconcile in one of four ways:
1 Deep, mutual healing. The first is the one we long for the most in which both people grow and change, and there is a deep healing in the relationship. ...
How long does it take to reconcile a relationship?
"If it was over something really trivial, for example, you may be able to patch things up in a day or two. If it was over something more serious, it's a good idea to take a month apart so that you have time to get your emotions in check and get clarity about the situation.
Reconciliation, however, restores the relationship. Forgiveness may be one-sided. But reconciliation requires both parties to be willing to participate in restoring the relationship.
However, many people make the mistake of treating this command to include both forgiveness and reconciliation as if they are synonymous, and must be packaged together. This is not the case. They are two distinct things, and they do not always go together. Forgiveness does not always lead to reconciliation.
If you are intent on getting back together after separation, and your partner is willing to do their part, then, by all means, give reconciliation a chance.
Take a positive approach. The key to knowing how to deal with an unforgiving spouse is to avoid hostility or violence of any kind when such situations arise. ...
“As long as there aren't serious issues such as abusive behaviour in the relationship and each partner really cares about the other, a second chance at a successful relationship could work.
Many couples who have called it quits end up getting back together. In fact, a 2013 study found that over one third of couples who live together and one fifth of married couples have experienced a breakup and gotten back together.
It is never too late for reconciliation. One of these days, I will go and find those people that I think I hurt at some point, and seek those who hurt me too. Just like the prodigal son, may we all find peace and love through reconciliation with God and with people around us.
Family dynamics, present and past behaviors, abuse, and perceptions of the estranged and the initiator of estrangement can impact separation length. Many estranged individuals question when there might be reconciliation. On average, family estrangement can last 54 months or 4.5 years.
Karl Pillemer, author of Fractured Families and How To Mend Them, researched about 1300 people and found on average, family estrangement can last 54 months or 4.5 years. Of those interviewed, 85% were estranged for a year or more. Half of the respondents had no contact for four or more years.
