Here are sample expressions of a sincere and harmless apology: “I'm sorry that you had to make this call today.” “I'm sorry for any frustration you may have experienced.” “I'm sorry for any inconvenience this misunderstanding may have caused you.”
I truly/really/sincerely regret it. If you want to express regret for something you did, simply say it! I'm ashamed of my behavior. If your behavior hurt someone, you can express regret with this phrase.
Carry heart shaped balloons, saying “I am sorry”, some chocolates and knock on the door. When your partner opens the door, bend down on your knees, look over at them with puppy dog eyes and ask for his/her apology. You just can't go wrong with this one.
To keep their victims nearby, then, they'll make apologies left and right without taking any real actions to improve themselves or make amends. These are not real apologies—they are manipulation tactics. Any counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist in the world will attest that an apology without change is manipulation.
Im sorry, Im sorry, Im sorry. This is a passive-aggressive apology done to silence the other person and move onto a different topic. It minimizes what the other person has experienced. Im sorry but But is a qualifier. If a person cannot say sorry without adding a but, then they are not sorry.
2. The defensive apology. This one takes a bit of finesse and sleight-of-hand to pull off and it may actually work in the moment; it usually includes more than a little blame-shifting too. Yes, the words “I'm sorry” are included in this one; it's the construction of the apology you have to pay attention to.
In narcissists' efforts to avoid blame, they often combine several fake apologies at once, such as, “I am sorry if I said anything to offend you, but I have strong opinions. Maybe you're too sensitive,” or, “I guess I should tell you I am sorry. But you know I would never deliberately hurt you.
(text messaging, Internet slang) Abbreviation of sorry.
I'm so sorry that I hurt you. I'm sending you this apology message in a card to let you know that I love everything about you, for always, every single day. I want nothing more than for you to forgive me so that I can whisper in your ear how much I love you. The perfect couple love, laugh, fight and trust.
A true apology keeps the focus on your actions—and not on the other person's response. For example, “I'm sorry that you felt hurt by what I said at the party last night,” is not an apology. Try instead, “I'm sorry about what I said at the party last night.
A humble apology is one in which you admit wrongdoing—“I'm sorry I lost my temper”—showing that you're not above reflecting on your own flaws.
Indirect apology strategies refer to those expressions that indirectly indicate the function of apologizing. In other words, indirect apology strategies do not contain the linguistic devices that explicitly indicate the force of apologizing (e.g., Sorry in American English and 对不起 in Chinese).
But apologies are too often used as a quick fix for our uneasiness. When we focus more on our own discomfort than on the distress of the other person, our apology is selfish, and selfish apologies are usually ineffective.
Jamie Schenk DeWitt, a psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles told Newsweek: "A gaslighting apology is a conditional apology that makes the person apologizing appear as if they are sincerely saying 'I am sorry,' but they aren't taking any responsibility for hurting you.
So how do we build a worthy apology? Experts like Aaron Lazare and Nick Smith, in their book On Apology, point to four essential parts of the apology, and we can remember them as the 4 R's: Recognition, Responsibility, Remorse, and Reparation.
Toxic people will never apologise for their words and actions because they can't see anything wrong with them. They feel that they are the victim and will often twist and retell what happened to such an extent that they honestly can't see an alternative perspective.