She might have a dozen reasons, such as she's not interested in a relationship right now, she's not attracted to people of your gender, she's focusing on her career or education, or she has friendlier feelings for you, etc. Or maybe it is you. But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Maybe she values you as a friend.
On the most basic level, you are in the friend zone with someone if they only see you as a friend and don't have any romantic or sexual feelings for you. They might even see you like a sibling. This usually occurs with someone you've known for a while, such as a childhood friend or someone in a shared friend group.
If the girl likes you, she will be more considerate towards your choices, likes, and dislikes. If she smiles a lot, it means your humor and little quips please her and make her happy. Another subtle sign is she remembers the little details you may have shared with her. It is a way to show that she cares about you.
Shy, playful, and frequent touches are signs of a crush, so if they don't do this, it means you're in the friend zone. Think about what you do together. If they often invite other people out with you, try to set you up, or ask you for favors, you might be in the friend zone.
Most often, it's a term to describe that someone is just not interested. But when there's a sense of being slighted, you're not in the “friend zone;” you're probably just not friends. When you're legitimately friends with someone, it's not a “zone” you move in and out of. You're truly present for the other person.
She may have had an interest in you initially but you never encouraged those feeling to grow. You never flirted with her to make her feel desirable or aroused. You never touched her so she felt close to you on a physical level. You never had any sexy banter or intimate discussion to get her thinking about sex.
Remember that you will likely have to work a little harder to challenge the boundaries of the friend zone than you would if you were never in the friend zone to begin with. Though moving a friendship to a relationship is definitely possible, it's often easier to skip the friendship phase altogether.
Can you be friends with someone you're attracted to?
It's not only possible to be friends, but it is actually possible to choose not to have sex with a woman you are attracted to because you prefer the friendship over the romantic relationship. It's possible to reach a point of realization that sex for the sake of sex is just not very satisfying.
"Situationships are typically kind of an unspoken arrangement two people that are casually seeing each other romantically or physically," Klesman says. "That can vary from having regular communication to like kind of hitting each other up every so often."
Just make sure you're not at their beck and call, and you might even see the positive effects of ignoring a girl who friend-zoned you. Just be a bit busy with yourself and let them know that they're going to need to try harder to get your attention. Most importantly, don't be a douche about it.
How do you get out of the friend zone with a girl?
Try these tips:
Make your intention known. Don't tiptoe over your romantic feelings—if you're having them, then it's a sign you should take action rather than wait. ...
Learn their standards beforehand. What do they value in a partner? ...
If her attention is primarily on anything other than you, and if she doesn't seem excited to be spending time with you, that's the number-one universal sign that you're not her #1 choice. If she: Is constantly checking her phone. Acts like there's somewhere else she needs or wants to be.
