Sometimes, too nice really is a red flag. Someone who seems too nice could actually be love bombing you, an early warning sign of abuse, for instance. "Although on the surface, you may feel someone is too nice, it's actually your intuition trying to give you a subtle warning that something is off," Nikhade says.
An excessively nice person might never be really known on a deep level or taken seriously. Their preferences might be over-ridden, and they could be neglected. It can even impact your job. Being too accommodating can make you a bit invisible, because you never stand for anything.
Often, being too nice in a relationship is a sign of a deeper insecurity. It may stem from our attachment style or from experiences we had in childhood. Being too accommodating in a relationship may also be a sign of low self esteem or codependency in relationships.
Speaking to Refinery 29, Kelley Johnson, PhD, a clinical sexologist, explained why we are often turned off when someone comes on too strong. “That much attention can be perceived as desperation or a lack of independence [on the part of the person showing interest],” Dr Johnson explained.
People with Williams syndrome are described as having exceptionally friendly personalities, extremely sensitive and empathic, and therefore are also called “love children.” Williams syndrome is a genetic disorder caused by the deletion of one of the two copies of about 26 genes found on chromosome 7 in humans [1].
Sometimes, too nice really is a red flag. Someone who seems too nice could actually be love bombing you, an early warning sign of abuse, for instance. "Although on the surface, you may feel someone is too nice, it's actually your intuition trying to give you a subtle warning that something is off," Nikhade says.
People who are always nice tend to hold in negative emotions, often resulting in depression, anxiety, and addiction. Those who are always nice may periodically act out or even collapse from exhaustion.
A 2021 study found that clingy behavior is the biggest turn-off in romantic relationships.
Fear of intimacy
Pushing people away is one way of avoiding intimacy. In fact, this avoidance can act as a defense mechanism for people afraid of getting hurt in relationships.
Niceness has been referred to as our 'most fundamental social dysfunction' (Summers, 2005) and in nursing, niceness can be (and often is) toxic and disabling.
In retrospect, being friendly is entirely different from flirting, and the main difference is the relationship between people involved. Flirting often takes place when people are sexually attracted to each other whereas being friendly does not involve any attraction.
fastidious. finicky. genteel. goody-goody. goody-two-shoes.
Being disrespectful
Disrespectful behavior can include anything from sexist comments to making fun of other people in a mean way. While disrespectful behavior might keep you and your friends entertained, it's one of the biggest turn-offs for women.
A positive attitude, a balanced extroversion and confidence have been revealed as the most attractive qualities, in both sexes. Psychologists say these three personality qualities not only make someone more attractive to the opposite sex but also prove they can get on with anyone.
While clingy tendencies may have been “ok” in your previous relationship, being overly needy is generally considered a toxic dating habit.
“It can feel like desire disappears in an instant, but I don't think we've ever been so able to act on it,” he says. “That is part of the crisis, 'the ick' is often standing in for something else that maybe we don't consciously know.” But men and women alike can feel the ick, and opt to soldier on.
“The ick”, much discussed on TikTok and Instagram lately, is where attraction to a current or potential partner is suddenly flipped to a feeling of disgust.
Some of what holds people back from showing greater love is a sense that it would be dangerous and woolly-minded to do so. Too much sensitivity and sweetness, too much tolerance and sympathy appear to be the enemies of an appropriately grown-up and hard-headed existence.
Psychologists reveal why nice people sometimes get punished with meanness for their good behaviour. People who are generous and cooperative can get punished by others for being 'too good', research finds. Humans in all cultures can be suspicious of those who appear nicer or better than the rest.