So, despite being a bit shady, both experts agreed that leaving someone on read can definitely work to make you seem more desirable — but it can be a mixed bag further down the line. Keegan explains that, as a seduction strategy, keeping someone on read can work. However, it can also appear like a red flag about you.
If it's the end of a conversation, then leaving the person on read, regardless of the gender, is acceptable. At least one person has to, otherwise it will lead to meaningless drivel of texts and emojis. But if it is the middle of the conversation, then please don't do that to anyone, again regardless of gender.
Yes, it's a bit lazy and can feel somewhat cruel if you've already established mutual interest or even commitment, but leaving a message “on read” is the non-confrontational method of “letting someone down easy.” Unfortunately, not responding is commonly done to get across the message of disinterest.
This is where the term “being left on read” originates. Whether your partner has got read receipts on or not, being “left on read” means that they're ignoring you, literally leaving your message on “read” after having seen it or otherwise just not responding.
It can be appropriate (as you don't always have to the last person to text), but in general unless someone has done something R E A L L Y egregious, if you're just DONE talking, it can be a nice thing to let someone know you're done talking for a bit.
If You Get Left On Read For A Few Hours
Wait a full 24 hours before you send a follow-up text. “It'll be interpreted as you having an independent life, as well as being someone with emotional health [and] self-discipline,” she says.
The primary reason behind this is the fact that it is a form of rejection, regardless of how minor it may be. The human brain takes rejection as the same way it would a physical injury, thus creating a resentment for the person who read your message, but didn't feel it was appropriate or worth their time to respond.
What does left on read mean? In internet slang, a person is left on read when a recipient has read, but not responded to, a sender's message. The expression is often used to express feeling ignored.
The study found that 58 percent of readers were very satisfied when both parties read books, compared to 39 percent when neither party reads. Although attractiveness is subjective, the study also found that 81% of women and 77% of men believed that being a reader was attractive.
Should I Text Her Or Wait? If she texted you, you don't have to wait to text her back. You can respond to her whenever you have time and can do so. If she hasn't texted you back, however, it's best to wait to reach out again so that she'll have the chance to respond to your initial text message.
It could mean that she is busy and doesn't have time to check the phone. It could mean that she lost her phone for 4 days and can only respond now. It could mean that she thinks you're a loser and decides to respond 4 days later. It could mean that she wasn't interested in responding immediately, and only responds now.
Give them the benefit of the doubt, both experts agree. If you wait seven days, without sending a double text, and your inbox is still at zero, you should take that as a sign too. No response is a response, Fields says.
Keeping their receipts off ultimately removes any pressure that would be present otherwise. I also talked to Nicole Richardson, licensed marriage and family therapist, who agrees that people who leave their read receipts off like having the ability to think and mull over their response before answering.
If you're texting with a busy bee, just give her at least one day to respond. If she hasn't responded after that, then maybe she has forgotten you because she's busy. In that case, it's best to resume the conversation in a calm, light-hearted way.
Try sending something like, “I guess you're really busy, I'll stop bugging you.” If she reads this text and doesn't want the relationship to end, she'll probably respond right away. If She's Just Not That Into You, it will spur her to explain her lack of response and end things the right way.
Left on open means a snap was sent and the recipient opened it, which is a complicated way of saying the snap was read.. In addition, SnapChat records and reports when a person is on Snap so the original sender has proof that the recipient is not busy or away from their phone, but just being stubborn.
Try not to get in your head so much. Sometimes, getting left on read is just that. It doesn't mean they don't like you. It doesn't mean they are ghosting you or ignoring you on purpose.
Reply within 30–60 minutes to play it a little cool.
While it's okay to reply later if you're actually busy, purposefully waiting to text somebody might feel disrespectful if you're available. If you had to make the person wait for more than an hour, offer them an apology and explain what kept you from messaging them.
In all likelihood, your crush forgot to respond, and you'll hear back from them after you send a second text. But if this follow-up text gets left on read for longer than a day or two, it's probably time to move on.
not affectionate, cordial, or friendly; unresponsive: a cold reply; a cold reception.
Out of 132 people who participated, 89% (118 people) voted that texting back quickly is a TURN-ON and 11% (14 people) voted TURN-OFF. One voter let me know she tapped “off” by accident so these results are slightly skewed, but still—the results are clearly in favor of texting back fast being a turn on.